Tawa Baptist

Honesty

Scripture: Deuteronomy 5:20; 19:15-19

Video Link: https://youtu.be/_3dB1FprMWo

Structure:

  • Introduction
  • Honesty promotes justice in the court room
  • Honesty promotes trust in the neighbourhood
  • Honesty promotes humility in the heart  
  • Conclusion

Introduction:

Good morning everyone.

Let’s begin with a simple multi-choice question. When was the first time you can remember telling a lie? Were you: A. under the age of 10; B. over the age of 10; C. I have never told a lie; Or D. I can’t remember, it was too long ago.  

I expect most people would answer either A. under 10 or D. I can’t remember. If you answered C. (that you have never told a lie) then you are either Jesus or you are telling a porky. Lying is probably the easiest, most inclusive, all-age sin there is. Almost anyone can lie. And, eventually, everyone does.

Today we continue our series in Deuteronomy. We are up to that part (in chapter 5) where Moses reiterates the ten commandments of Yahweh. This morning our focus is the command, ‘You shall not give false testimony against your neighbour’, in verse 20.

The general aim with this commandment is to be honest and tell the truth. Honesty promotes justice in the courtroom, it promotes trust in the neighbourhood and being honest with ourselves promotes humility in the heart.

Honesty promotes justice in the courtroom:

In the context of the ten commandments, you shall not give false testimony is primarily about not lying in a court of law. Or not perverting the course of justice in other words.   

For society to function in a peaceful way there needs to be justice. And justice depends on people being honest and telling the truth. In the ancient world they didn’t have forensic science like we do. They weren’t able to check for finger prints or DNA and so eye witnesses were essential for providing evidence.

In Deuteronomy 19, verse 15, we read…

15 One witness is not enough to convict anyone accused of any crime or offense they may have committed. A matter must be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.

The requirement for two or three witnesses (whose testimonies agree) provided a safe guard against miscarriages of justice. However, this safeguard was not full proof. It was still possible for two or three dishonest people to conspire against an innocent third party. And so Deuteronomy 19 goes on to say…

16 If a malicious witness takes the stand to accuse someone of a crime, 17 the two people involved in the dispute must stand in the presence of the Lord before the priests and the judges who are in office at the time. 18 The judges must make a thorough investigation, and if the witness proves to be a liar, giving false testimony against a fellow Israelite, 19 then do to the false witness as that witness intended to do to the other party. 

We see a number of examples of false witnesses in the Scriptures. One such example is found in the book of Esther.

There we read how Haman trumped up false charges against Mordecai. Haman was so confident of his plot he constructed gallows in anticipation of Mordecai being found guilty. As it transpired, Haman’s false testimony was uncovered and Haman himself was hung on the gallows he had prepared for Mordecai.

Perhaps the most famous example of people bearing false witness though was at the trial of Jesus. In Matthew 26 we read…

59 The chief priests and the whole Sanhedrin were looking for false evidence against Jesus so that they could put him to death. 60 But they did not find any [who could agree], though many false witnesses came forward.

Ironically, Jesus was put to death for giving truthful testimony about himself. When the high priest asked Jesus if he was the Christ, the Son of God, Jesus replied, “Yes, it is as you say.” No one in that court believed him, despite the evidence of his miracles, his fulfilment of Scripture and his followers.    

Okay, time for another multi-choice question. You don’t have to put your hand up for this one by the way. Simply consider what you might do. Here’s the scenario…

Your best friend was involved in a car crash but fled the scene before the police arrived so they could not test his blood for alcohol. You were seen with your friend at the pub the night of the crash but you were not in the car at the time. You are required to take the stand in court as a witness.

The prosecution asks if you saw your friend drinking the night of the crash. You answer ‘yes’. Then they ask you, how much was he drinking? You know that it was enough to put him over the limit but you don’t want to make things worse for your best mate. How do you answer?

Do you: A. tell the whole truth, it was four jugs of beer and two shots of tequila; B. fudge the truth to cover for him, it was only half a pint of beer; C. Lie by saying you can’t remember; Or D. remain silent and refuse to answer.

In this scenario you are not being tempted to get someone into trouble for something they haven’t done. You are being tempted to withhold the truth in order to protect a friend who is clearly in the wrong. Is it okay to do that?

Well, no. When Deuteronomy 5, verse 20, talks about giving ‘false’ testimony, the word false, means empty testimony. As Daniel Block explains, the concern is testimony that does not move the case forward, that hedges the truth or detracts from the pursuit of justice with misleading or trivial responses. [1]

In the context of a courtroom, the purpose with the command to not give false testimony is to ensure justice is done. Fudging the truth or leaving out crucial facts or pretending you can’t remember or saying nothing, are not allowed if those strategies derail the course of justice.

Okay, so we’ve talked about not giving false testimony in the context of formal legal proceedings. What about outside of a court of law. How does the command to not give false testimony apply in the neighbourhood? And by the neighbourhood we mean in the home, at school, in the work place, in your street, and so on.    

Honesty promotes trust in the neighbourhood:

In Leviticus 19 we read: Do not steal. Do not lie. Do not deceive one another.

And, jumping ahead to the New Testament, in Ephesians 4 we read: Each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbour… 

These verses are talking about being honest in our everyday relationships with the people in our neighbourhood. If the primary purpose of being honest in a court of law is to promote justice, then the primary purpose in being honest with our neighbours is to promote trust.

The air in the atmosphere we breathe is about 78% nitrogen, 21% oxygen and 1% other gases. As much as we need oxygen to survive, too much oxygen is harmful. In fact, breathing pure oxygen will kill you.

Honesty is like oxygen to the atmosphere of our relationships. We need honesty in our relationships. Honesty keeps trust alive. But too much honesty will kill the relationship. Honesty needs to be tempered with the nitrogen of discretion.

Discretion is not lying. Discretion is choosing when to speak and when to hold your tongue for the sake of the relationship; for the sake of trust.

For example, if you meet a friend at a café and as part of the conversation say, very loudly so everyone can hear, ‘how are your hemorrhoids?’ Or, ‘your breath smells really bad’. Or, ‘that dress makes you look fat’ Or, something else that might be honest but also embarrassing for them, then you will undermine trust and kill the friendship. There is such a thing as being too honest.

Being honest doesn’t give us a license to disclose other people’s business. In the context of the neighbourhood, honesty needs to be tempered with discretion, otherwise no one will trust you.

Imagine you are waiting by the coffee cart on the Main Road here in Tawa when one of the cool kids, someone quite successful and generally liked by everyone, starts talking with you while you are waiting for your morning fix. The conversation begins innocently enough but then takes a turn for the worse.

This popular person, who you admire, starts talking about another person’s failure behind their back. There may be some foundation to what they are saying but it is not entirely true and it certainly is not kind, much less anyone else’s business. How do you respond?

Do you: A. collude with them by agreeing; B. listen and say nothing; C. call them out (and correct them); or D. subtly change the topic of conversation.     

I guess most of us would like to think we had the courage to call them out and correct them, even though that might make us the target of their gossip with someone else. But I imagine most (if not all) of us have employed all four strategies at one point or another.

In 1st Corinthians 13, Paul describes the most excellent way, saying…

5 Love does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, 

Honesty can be a brutal thing, if it is not motivated by love. We may harm others with our words and then justify ourselves by saying, ‘I was just keeping it real’ or ‘I was only being honest’.  Yes, love rejoices with the truth. But that does not mean love is insensitive or that it takes pleasure in seeing people hurt.

The truth is too big for any of us to know. We don’t have the full picture and so we need to be honest with ourselves and admit the limits of our understanding. Our words need to be motivated by love and humility. We must be careful not to dishonour others with our words. We need to protect the reputation of others.

As a teacher, Robyn sometimes has kids coming to her telling tales. She poked her tongue out at me. Or he peed in the pool. There may be some truth to these tales but there isn’t much love.

Robyn has an acrostic she uses with the kids in her class. It spells the word THINK. (I’ve shared this with you before.) She tells her kids to THINK before they speak. Is it True? Is it Helpful? Is it Inspiring? Is it Necessary? And is it Kind? If it is true, helpful, inspiring, necessary and kind then it is worth saying.  

The apostle Paul summed it up in Ephesians 4 when he said…

Say only the good things people need to hear, that will really help them.

When our words are honest and kind, we foster trust in our relationships. Trust is the foundation really. Without trust there is nothing to build on and the neighbourhood collapses.

These days our neighbourhood is not just a physical place. Many of us also inhabit a virtual online neighbourhood. We live in the information age. There is so much data at our finger tips, on the internet. Unfortunately, not all of it is true. The recent pandemic has revealed the power of misinformation to mislead people and undermine trust.  

Jesus teaches us to be discerning in what we accept as true and what we filter out as false. In Matthew 7, Jesus says…

15 “Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. 16 By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thorn bushes, or figs from thistles? 17 Likewise, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 

Jesus wants us to be discerning about what we accept as true because buying into a lie makes it harder to trust and easier to become cynical.

Okay, so we are talking about the importance of being honest. Honesty promotes justice in the courtroom, it promotes trust in the neighbourhood and being honest with ourselves promotes humility in the heart.

Honesty promotes humility in the heart:

Jesus had quite a bit to say about keeping our heart honest. Jesus was particularly tough on religious hypocrisy. A hypocrite is an actor, someone who gets by in life by pretending to be something they are not. Listen to some of the things Jesus said to the religious leaders’ faces, from the gospel of Luke…

39 Then the Lord said to him, “Now then, you Pharisees clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside you are full of greed and wickedness. 

41 But… be generous to the poor, and everything will be clean for you.

46“And you experts in the law, woe to you, because you load people down with burdens they can hardly carry, and you yourselves will not lift one finger to help them.

An ignorant person might hear those words and think, Jesus is taking a shot at all professional clergy. But he’s not. Anyone can be a Pharisee. You don’t even have to be a believer to be like the religious leaders Jesus is describing here. Those words fit for anyone who is dishonest with themselves.  

Imagine you are in church singing a worship song. You are finding the song difficult to sing. Not because the music is complicated but because the words are pricking your conscience. All to Jesus, I surrender, all to thee I freely give. I will ever love and trust you, in your presence daily live. I surrender all…

You know in your heart that you are failing to live up to those words. It’s not that you have a sensitive conscience. In fact, your conscience hardly ever bothers you, which (truth be told) is how you like it.

But the Spirit is present, this particular day, and you know Jesus is putting his finger on something in your life, something you would rather not face. Perhaps some dodgey dealings at work or school. Or maybe you are cheating on your boyfriend or being violent with your wife or neglecting your children. 

Whatever it is, do you: A. ignore your conscience and sing louder; B. lip sync without actually singing the words; C. stop coming to church altogether; or D. put things right and return to church the next Sunday to sing with a clear conscience.

Hopefully we would all do D. put things right and sing with a clear conscience. Having said that, I’m all too aware that sometimes we human beings are tempted to use religion as a cloak of invisibility, to hide what’s really going on in our personal lives.

Now, I’m not suggesting we stop singing worship songs in church every time we do something wrong. If we did that, no one would ever be able to sing.

The point is we need to be honest with ourselves and with God. Other people can’t see into our hearts but God can. There is no fooling him. We don’t have to be perfect to call ourselves a Christian but nor can we fake it.

When we mess up we need to confess our wrong doing to the Lord, do what we can to put it right and continue following Jesus in faith, trusting ourselves to God’s grace, without pride or pretence. 

One of the ways we keep our heart honest is through the spiritual discipline of self-examination and confession. Confession is when you tell God (aloud) what you have done wrong. When confession is done well, it releases us from guilt and enables to walk humbly with God.

Trouble is, we don’t always do confession well. We may spend too much time examining our heart and become too critical of ourselves, not allowing any room for grace. Or we might go to the other extreme and charge through life without any self-awareness, leaving a trail of hurt people in our wake.     

When I was a teenager, I remember attending a church service. The guest speaker was talking about the value of confessing our sins to each other. Not wanting to be hypocrites, and perhaps also wanting to unburden their conscience, a number of people got up and confessed their deepest darkest secrets to the whole congregation.

In hindsight, I don’t think that was a good idea. While there is a place for accountability, perhaps with a mentor or in small groups, it doesn’t really work in a bigger gathering. Some people over shared and others didn’t share anything. The whole exercise just made people feel awkward or misunderstood and consequently more disconnected, which defeats the purpose of church.

Confession works best when done in the same context in which we committed the wrong doing. For example, if you lie to a colleague, one on one, then you put that right by confessing the truth to that colleague, one on one. You don’t need to tell the whole church what you did.

However, if you stand up in a church meeting and say something false or hurtful, then you put that right by admitting your mistake in a church meeting. Confession works best when done in the same context in which we committed the wrong doing.    

Conclusion:

We’ve talked this morning about the importance of honesty. Honesty promotes justice in the courtroom, it promotes trust in the neighbourhood and being honest with ourselves promotes humility in the heart.

But are there any circumstances when it is okay to lie? Well, if the purpose in being honest is to promote justice, trust and humility, then we may be forced to lie if telling the truth would undermine justice, trust and humility.

One last multi-choice question to illustrate what I mean. Imagine you live under a ruthless dictatorship, one in which the authorities are hell bent of eradicating anyone with red hair. The ruler of the country has lost his mind. People with even a hint of ginger in their beard are being hunted down and sent into exile on Stewart Island to shuck oysters.

The law is completely ridiculous. Having red hair is not a moral issue. There is no justice in this decree. It undermines human dignity, destroys trust and promotes bigotry and prejudice.

Do you: A. set up a secret hair salon in your basement to dye people’s hair black; B. Dye your own hair red in solidarity; C. lie to the authorities to protect your red headed neighbours; or D. report people with red hair to the police.

I think, in an extreme situation like that, lying to the authorities is (paradoxically) a more honest option than reporting red heads to the police.

(My apologies to people with red hair and anyone living on Stewart Island. I mean no disrespect. I’m 98% sure this scenario would never happen.)

Let us pray…

Father God, we thank you for Jesus who shows us what it means to hold grace and truth together. Help us to be honest with you, honest with our neighbours and honest with ourselves. May justice be upheld in our courts of law. May trust be strengthened in our neighbourhoods and may we walk humbly with you. Through Jesus we pray. Amen.  

Questions for discussion or reflection:

What stands out for you in reading these Scriptures and/or in listening to the sermon? Why do you think this stood out to you?

  • When was the first time you can remember telling a lie? What happened? How did you feel? Were you able to put it right?
  • Why is it important to be honest? What does honesty promote? 
  • Can you recall a time when someone lied to you? What happened? How did you feel? Was your ability to trust affected? If so, how? 
  • How might we handle a situation in which someone talks negatively to us about someone else behind their back? How do we maintain trust?
  • Is it ever okay to lie? If so, under what circumstances? What principles can we use to guide us?
  • How might we keep ourselves honest? What does healthy confession look like in practice? Make some time this week to examine your heart, confess your short fallings to God and make things right with others if necessary.

[1] Daniel Block, NIVAC Deuteronomy, pages 166-167.

Tawa Baptist

God Never Changes – by Neville

Changeless God in a changing world

Neville Gardner 2 Oct 2022

You’ve got me as a speaker today, and Peter next Sunday, because Will is taking a short break.

He gets a change that will refresh him.

I get a change that has challenged me.

You get a change that – well, I don’t know what you’ll get from it!

Don’t worry, things will be back to normal in a couple of weeks.

Not all change is so short-lived, or so easy to cope with.

My wife Nicky and I have recently been looking to replace our 18 year old car. When I got in a new car for a test drive the other day, about the only things I recognised were the steering wheel and the seats. The salesman assured me that he’d “even taught his granny” how to use the computer touchscreen.

New technology, as we all know, can have upsides and downsides. Our new car will be safer, cheaper to run, quieter and better for the environment. It will take some effort to learn how to use all the new features, or how to turn them off, but I’m sure we’ll get used to the change in time. Actually, I can hardly wait for the new car to arrive.

We live in a world in which few things don’t change. Each of you will have experienced changes that have affected you in different ways. I’m going to read out a list of changes – for each one I’d like you to think of an example that relates to your own experiences.

A change that was easy to cope with . . . a change that was unsettling or damaging.

A change that affected lots of people . . . a change that affected just you.

A change you caused to happen . . . a change you had no control over.

Our bodies undergo physical changes as we grow up and grow old. Our minds and characters can change too. We need to cope with changes to health and relationships, school and jobs, family and friends, finances and the environment and so on – the list is endless.

Fortunately, this endless list of changes does not include God. “For I am the Lord, I do not change.” we are told in Malachi 3:6. Which is good news, when you remember that He’s in control of everything. God doesn’t have moods, he doesn’t have good days and bad days, you can’t accuse him of ‘not being a morning person’. He keeps his promises and if he tells us what he wants us to do one day, he doesn’t change his mind the next.

God never changes.

Or I can say GOD never changes, or I can say God NEVER changes – that puts slightly different meanings on the phrase.

Saying GOD never changes, implies that everything else does.

God created change, but he is unchanging himself.

1 Samuel 15:29 tells us that “Israel’s majestic God does not lie or change his mind. He is not a man – he does not change his mind.”

The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies never come to an end.

Lamentations 3:22 (English Standard Version).

When God created the world, one of the first things he did was to create light and changed night into day in a regular cycle. That was followed by a world of changing seasons, weather, mountains, seas and rivers. He also created people, with bodies that age and die, and natures that change.

God encourages us to change. At some time in our lives, He offers us the chance to make a life-changing choice. For me, his ‘believe in me’ call didn’t arrive until I was about 30 years old. It will have been different for each of you. Making the decision to accept Jesus certainly made a big change to my life – not least because within a year I had moved to live in New Zealand and was married. Both of which, I hasten add, I think of as good changes!

When we believe in God, we ask Him to keep on changing us, in ways that will bring us closer to Him through Jesus. There’s a song we sing sometimes that includes the lines:

Change my heart oh God

Make it ever true.

Change my heart oh God

May I be like you.

You are the potter,

I am the clay.

Mould be and make me,

This is what I pray.

God NEVER changes

Psalm 102: 25 and 27 say “O Lord, you live for ever. Long ago you created the earth, and with your own hands you made the heavens. They will disappear, but you will remain.”

There has never been, and will never be, a time without God. And through all of his existence he has not, and will not, change.

The God that we serve today is exactly the same as the God who created the world. He is the same God who promised Moses that he would save his people. He is the same today as when he accepted Jesus’ sacrifice for us. He will be exactly the same when our world ends.

As you read the Bible, you meet a God who at times seems angry, or controlling, or loving. But he is not changeable – what we encounter is a loving, merciful and just God who is dealing with sinful people in all kinds of situations.

He treats people something like parents treat their children:

If a child obeys their parents, the parents show pleasure

If a child disobeys their parents, they may face less than pleasing consequences

If a child needs help, they can ask their parents for guidance

If a child is hurting, their parents show compassion.

That’s how God treats his people.

So what is it about God that doesn’t change?

His character never changes

God is always good, wise, just, truthful, gracious, loving, merciful, faithful, patient, and much more. None of these characters will ever change. He is perfect, so he can’t get any better, and he can’t get worse.

His purposes never change

Psalm 33:11 says “But his plans endure for ever; his purposes last eternally.”

God’s purposes for Jesus will not change.

Jesus will always be our saviour – Hebrews 13:8 tells us that “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today and for ever.”

God’s plans for everyone who accepts Jesus as their saviour will not change.

John 14: 6 says “Jesus answered him “I am the way, the truth, and the life; No one goes to the Father except through me.””

Hebrews 7:24-25 says “But Jesus lives on for ever, and his work as priest does not pass on to someone else. And so he is able, now and always, to save those who come to God through him, because he lives for ever to plead with God for them.”

God’s plans for those who choose sin instead of Jesus never change.

John 3:36 says “Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life; whoever disobeys the Son will not have eternal life, but will remain under God’s punishment.”

God has a plan for my life. He’s got one for each of you too. He’ll do everything he can to make sure his plan unfolds perfectly, as long as we stick with God.

So what does God’s unchangeability mean to us?

Because we can be certain that God never changes, we can trust all his promises.

We can trust him completely. And Jesus will always save and protect those who trust in him.

Therefore, we have no cause to fear the future.

Because God never changes, we can be confident when we pray to him.

He will always listen to our prayers, at any time, under any circumstances – not just sometimes.

1 John 5:14-15 says “We have courage in God’s presence, because we are sure that he hears us if we ask him for anything that is according to his will. He hears us whenever we ask him; and since we know this is true, we know also that he gives us what we ask from him.”

Some people may ask how, if he never changes, God can keep up in a changing world. How can he stay relevant?

Well, I think he can stay relevant precisely because he doesn’t change. God’s purposes never change, we will always need salvation, and Jesus is always there to give it. Our challenge is to remember that no matter how much society changes, we will always need to try and understand God’s purpose.

As Christians, we can help communicate God’s relevance using language and actions that each new generation understands. Daryl and his team of leaders do that all the time, with the Bus Tour of the coming week being a great example. Will is currently preaching a series of sermons that interprets the 10 commandments for our modern world.

I was watching the funeral of Queen Elizabeth the other day, and I was struck by the old-fashioned language used in the service, such as liveth, thou knowest and so on. I presume it was from the King James Bible, first published in 1611.

Because we are having communion soon, I thought I’d read you something from a little book called A Companion to the Altar, published for the Church of England in about 1790– that’s 232 years ago.

It’s purely coincidental that this old paper and leather book is the same size as my glass, plastic and metal mobile phone.

Question: What is required of them who come to the Lord’s Supper?

Answer: To examine themselves whether they repent them truly of their former sins; steadfastly purposing to lead a new life; have lively faith in God’s mercy through Christ, with thankful remembrance of his death, and to be in charity with all men.

The meaning is still relevant, that’s still a good way to prepare for communion, but the language isn’t what we’d use today. Fortunately, as languages change, new translations of the Bible keep God’s word accessible to new generations of readers.

As well as the language we use in church changing over time, so have styles of worship.

Many of you will have attended other churches at some time, and will be aware that the drive to make Christianity ‘relevant’ in modern times involves change that doesn’t always sit easily with older generations. This change may be good for some, not so good for others.

One person who questioned his own response to such changes was the late Jack McFadyen. Some of you will remember when he was minister here in the mid 1970s. I knew Jack a long time after that, when he was attending a church in a different city. I’ll close by reading what Jack wrote about his experience of change in that church – it is not referring to this church. The piece is called “Tomorrow’s Church”:

Lord, the modern church isn’t the one I used to know.

We felt safe then with familiar hymns and dignified people leading our worship.

But it isn’t like that anymore. It’s as though something has been taken away from me.

The minister isn’t the worship leader anymore – anyone can do it and sometimes, it’s less of a service than a performance.

The music is foreign to me and the words seem shallow.

They speak of you and your kingdom in a way that sounds cheap.

Have I got it wrong Lord?

Can the church I see survive the modern world? I wonder.

Then, Lord, it seems so clear to me. I do have it wrong.

These young people are tomorrow’s church and they have to speak to tomorrow’s world. They’re on the same wavelength as today’s culture and tomorrow’s – and I’m not.

No, Lord, the church won’t die at their hands, it would die at mine.

No one will want a faith whose culture belongs to yesterday.

It has to be relevant to now and beyond – with music and dress and informality and language and the whole new culture of their generation.

So what do I do about it Lord? I think I know.

I will be grateful that there will be a church of tomorrow because there are people who seem relevant to a changing world and they will speak of Jesus in music and story in the idiom of their day.

Lord, thank you for the church of today that assures me that we will have a church of tomorrow.

Questions for study or reflection:

How was your childhood different to that of today’s children?

In what ways do think it was better?

In what ways do modern children have things better?

The sermon mentions that God is always good, wise, just, truthful, gracious, loving, merciful, faithful, patient.

What other aspects of God’s character do not change?

What does the fact that God never changes mean to you?

What are some of the ways that all ages of people can be catered for in a church service?

Tawa Baptist

Security

Scriptures: Deuteronomy 5:19; 19:14; 23:15-16, 19-20, 24-25; 24:6-7, 10-15, 19-22; 25:13-16 and 1st King 21

Video Link: https://youtu.be/voWPWYrYbm0

Structure:

  • Introduction
  • Generosity, not greed
  • Security, not anxiety
  • Trust, not threat
  • Conclusion

Introduction:

Good morning everyone.

When I was growing up in the 1970’s people didn’t lock their house during the day. You trusted your neighbours and complete strangers for that matter. If you popped down to the dairy to pick up a bottle of milk, you could leave the keys in your car, with the engine running, and not give it a second thought. You felt safe, like no one was going to pinch your stuff.

It’s not like that now. Almost every week we hear reports of ram raids and smash and grab crimes. Just two weeks ago I noticed a $200 charge on our credit card for something we had not purchased. Theft through the internet. We quickly cancelled the card to stop any further loss.

Many of you have got rid of your landline phones, partly because we use cell-phones now but also because many of the calls we get on our landline are scam artists, trying to weedle their way in our bank account.

It used to make me angry, especially when I thought of someone more vulnerable being taken advantage of. But then I thought, how desperate must someone be if they are having to resort to committing fraud for a living.

Even the post is suspect now. You take a risk sending anything of value in the mail. A number of times we’ve had things going ‘missing’ in the post.   

All these nasty little experiences breed cynicism and anxiety, undermining our sense of security and our ability to trust.

Today we continue our series in Deuteronomy. We are up to that part (in chapter 5) where Moses reiterates the ten commandments or the ten words of Yahweh. This morning our focus is the command, ‘You shall not steal’, in verse 19.

You shall not steal is perhaps one of the broadest commandments. It covers a wide range of activity. On the face of it, you shall not steal affirms the right to own personal property and provides protection for one’s material assets.

When we look at Deuteronomy as whole we get the sense that, you shall not steal is about fostering trust between people. It’s about promoting security in the neighbourhood. The kingdom of God is to be a place of generosity.

Generosity not greed, security not anxiety and trust not threat, this is the kaupapa or the purpose with the command not to steal.

Moses gives heaps of examples of how, you shall not steal, applies in daily life. Let’s start with land. The right use of land has to do with generosity. All too often human greed gets in the way.  

Generosity, not greed:

In Deuteronomy 19 we read: 14 Do not move your neighbour’s boundary stone set up by your predecessors in the inheritance you receive in the land the Lord your God is giving you to possess.

To move a boundary stone is to take land that does not belong to you. These days moving your neighbour’s boundary stone would equate to building a fence in the wrong place, so as to disadvantage your neighbour. In ancient Israel moving a boundary stone reduced your neighbour’s capacity for growing food.

Worse than this though, it was an offence against God. You see, land for the ancient Israelites, was not privately owned by individuals. Land is owned by God.

The Lord allocated portions of the Promised Land of Canaan to the various tribes of Israel. Each tribe and clan and family were to act like kaitiaki or guardians, caretakers of the land entrusted to their care. The section of land you were responsible for was to stay in your family and be passed down from generation to generation.

You could use your allocation of land to graze your sheep or grow your grain but you could never sell the land. If a family fell on hard times they could lease their land, for a specified period of time, to someone else from their tribe (ideally a close relative) but they could never permanently sell it.

As a safe guard, once every 50 years, the allocations of land were to be returned to the original family holdings.

In first Kings chapter 19, we read how king Ahab (arguably the most evil king Israel ever had) wanted to buy Naboth’s vineyard so he could grow vegetables. Ahab basically told Naboth to name his price.

Naboth, who was a regular citizen and also a God fearing man, said ‘no’ to king Ahab. ‘God forbid’ that I ever sell my land to anyone. In Naboth’s mind, Ahab was essentially trying to bribe him to move a boundary stone.

Ahab started sulking around the palace and so his wife, Jezebel, arranged to have Naboth killed so that Ahab could seize Naboth’s field. God responded by sending the prophet Elijah to pronounce judgement on Ahab and Jezebel.

We might wonder how this story applies to us in our world today, because we buy and sell land all the time.

Well, the situation of ancient Israel is not exactly the same as contemporary New Zealand. I don’t think we should interpret the law of Moses to be saying we can’t buy and sell land ever. Selling your house to buy a new one is simply a practical necessity in the world in which we live today.

We need to look deeper than the letter of the law in order to find its spirit. The purpose (or kaupapa) of the law is generosity not greed. The land is one of God’s generous gifts to us. It is part of God’s hospitality to humanity. If we misuse the land for our own selfish gain, then we are essentially treating God’s generosity with contempt. We are stealing from God.

In practical terms, not moving your neighbour’s boundary stone, means people should not be pushed off their land. Big business interests need to give way to people’s welfare. In particular, the real estate of indigenous people needs to be respected and restored where it has been stolen.   

We do well to think of ourselves as caretakers of the land and of our neighbours. With this in view, the idea of protecting fertile land, so it cannot be turned into housing or carparks but rather used to grow crops, is a sensible one. 

The command to not steal also applies to paying a fair price for things. If land is being sold under a mortgagee sale, that is no excuse to drive the price lower in order to get it for a steal (as the saying goes). As believers we need to pay what it is worth. That is what it means to be generous and not greedy.

So, generally speaking, as long as no one is being taken advantage of, it’s okay to buy and sell land in New Zealand today. In any property transaction though, we need to be thinking of how that transaction will affect others.

For Christians, the Promised Land of Canaan is a symbol or a metaphor for the Kingdom of God. Through faith in Jesus we get a share in God’s kingdom. As believers in Christ we are meant to be more attached to Jesus than we are to land. God is our eternal home, our place to belong.

So, not moving a boundary stone (in a spiritual sense) means not abandoning our faith in Jesus. It means not selling out for some temporary short term gain. It means staying loyal to God, like Naboth did.      

Security, not anxiety:

Closely related to this principle of generosity is the idea of security. In Deuteronomy 23 we read…

24 If you enter your neighbour’s vineyard, you may eat all the grapes you want, but do not put any in your basket. 25 If you enter your neighbour’s grain field, you may pick kernels with your hands, but you must not put a sickle to their standing grain.

These verses help us to see where the line is drawn between reasonable use and theft. The spirit of the law here is to encourage land owners to be generous, not stingy. At the same time, the law provides a measure of food security for the poor. Generosity and security are held together in these verses.  

In a by-gone era people who were starving in Europe got sent to jail (or to Australia) for stealing a loaf of bread or a handful of potatoes. This kind of hard line punishment against the poor, who are already in a vulnerable position, is not condoned by the Bible. 

That said, I don’t think you can help yourself to grapes and apples when you are walking through the fresh produce section of the supermarket.

It is Moses’ intention to promote security, not anxiety. In Deuteronomy 24 we find another example of food security…

19 When you are harvesting in your field and you overlook a sheaf, do not go back to get it. Leave it for the foreigner, the fatherless and the widow, so that the Lord your God may bless you in all the work of your hands. 

The Lord Almighty (Yahweh) was generous to his people up front, without them having to do anything to earn his favour. The farmers were to pay Yahweh’s generosity forward by leaving plenty of produce in the field for the poor to collect. Boaz famously did this for Ruth.     

I guess we do something similar when we leave garage sale items outside for the wider community to help themselves to.

When the principles of generosity and security are practiced, the poor do not need to be anxious. Of course, being poor or in need is not the only cause of stealing. Some people will steal anything, without any good reason.

Here, at church, we’ve had brass door latches taken, small shrubs stolen out of the garden and copper pinched off the roof. I’m not sure why people would steal from a church? What I do know is that the cost of those thefts was far greater than the value of the items stolen.

Quite apart from the physical damage burglars do to a building, on forcing entry, there is also the damage a burglary does to one’s soul. I’m talking about the erosion of trust, the heightened anxiety you might experience going into an empty building at night and that feeling of being violated in some way.

Thieves don’t just take your stuff; they can potentially rob you of your peace of mind. Who wants to live in a society where you are always looking over your shoulder, always second guessing your neighbour’s motivation?   

By the same token, when someone takes care of your stuff, it has a restorative effect on your soul. It helps you regain some capacity to trust. It makes you feel more positively connected, more at home in the neighbourhood.

In Deuteronomy 22, we read…

If you see your fellow Israelite’s ox or sheep straying, do not ignore it but be sure to take it back to its owner… 

It is not enough simply to avoid stealing. We need to actively protect our neighbour’s stuff. This is about being your brother (or sister’s) keeper. It’s about providing security and reducing anxiety in the neighbourhood.

Probably the worst kind of theft is kidnapping. Taking another human being against their will in order to exploit them in some way. This is also known as people trafficking or slavery.

Literally hundreds of thousands of people are trafficked throughout the world each year. Some are forced into the sex trade and others are made to do manual labour for next to nothing. People trafficking is revolting to God.  

In the case of stolen goods, the law of Moses stipulates that what was stolen be replaced at least two fold. But for the one who steals other people, the prescribed punishment is death. That is how serious it is.   

I don’t expect anyone here is a slave trader as such but we have probably all purchased an item of clothing made by an exploited worker at some point. Perhaps the least any of us can do is buy fair trade goods whenever we can.

The problem is we are disconnected from the supply chain. So it is often impossible to know if we are making ethical purchases.

The slave trade is the opposite of God’s law. Kidnapping for exploitation is greed in an extreme form. It threatens the life of those who are enslaved and it creates anxiety in those who wish to do the right thing.

No one is beyond God’s redemption though. Although Joseph’s brothers sold him into slavery, Joseph was (in the end) able to forgive his brothers saying: What you intended for harm, God intended for good.    

Trust, not threat:  

Okay, so the purpose of God’s command to not steal is to encourage generosity not greed, to promote security not anxiety and to foster trust not threat within the neighbourhood.

Poverty was a real threat for some in ancient Israel. God’s concern and practical care for the poor is seen again and again in Deuteronomy.

For example, in chapter 24, verses 14-15, we read: 14 Do not take advantage of a hired worker who is poor and needy… 15 Pay them their wages each day before sunset, because they are poor and are counting on it.

Sometimes the rich and middle class don’t have too many clues about how the poor live day to day. We may be completely unaware of the realities our neighbours face. God’s law requires us to put ourselves in other people’s shoes and consider things from their perspective.

We need to be thinking, how can I promote security in my neighbourhood? How can I alleviate my neighbour’s anxiety? How can I promote trust? Paying a fair rate in a timely way helps with all three.   

Sometimes, when it is difficult to make ends meet, people may be forced to borrow money. The law of Moses prohibited charging interest on loans to fellow Israelites, although they could charge interest to foreigners.

This might seem like a double standard to us but in all likelihood the foreigners Moses had in mind here were probably not poor. They might be merchants who bought and sold goods for profit. 

So the distinction is between commercial loans and compassionate loans. It is okay to charge a reasonable rate of interest on commercial loans because the borrower is not hard up and they are using your money to make a profit.

But it’s not okay to charge interest on compassionate loans to the poor because that would be profiting from someone else’s misfortune. That would be like stealing from the poor.

A compassionate loan lets people keep their dignity because they are going to pay it back, it’s not charity. At the same time, an interest free loan is generous not greedy. It promotes security and reduces anxiety in the neighbourhood.

Whether the lending is commercial or compassionate, these verses warn against loan sharking and charging unfair rates of interest.

But there is also an encouragement, for those who can afford it, to offer small interest free loans to help family members or fellow believers who are in need. Of course, common sense dictates that you should never lend more than you can afford to lose.       

In verse 6, of Deuteronomy 24, Moses talks about security for debt and how lenders are to relate with those who have borrowed from them. That is, in a trusting way, not in a threatening way. Moses says…

6 Do not take a pair of millstones—not even the upper one—as security for a debt, because that would be taking a person’s livelihood as security.

And, in verses 12-13 we read:12 If the neighbour is poor, do not go to sleep with their pledge in your possession. 13 Return their cloak by sunset so that your neighbour may sleep in it… 

To take someone’s millstone as security for a debt was like taking their fry pan or their bread mixer. It was a threatening thing to do, because without a millstone the poor borrower couldn’t make bread.

Taking a poor man’s cloak as pledge was also a threatening thing to do. Without their cloak they might be too cold to sleep at night.

Moses wants to prevent the haves from intimidating the have nots. He wants people to use their power (their money) to help the poor. This requires lenders to trust God and not threaten people by taking things that are vital for their survival.

Yes, there will be times when you lend to someone and they won’t repay you. Nevertheless, God will act as guarantor for the financially vulnerable. If you loan money in good faith to help someone in need and they fail to repay you, the Lord will see that and credit it to you as a righteous act.

Trust, not threat is the purpose or the kaupapa at work in the law here.  

Another form of theft (which undermines trust) is the use of dishonest weights. Scales that disadvantage the buyer. In Deuteronomy 25, Moses says: 15 You must have accurate and honest weights and measures… 16 For the Lord your God detests anyone who deals dishonestly.

In today’s terms that means more than just having accurate scales. It means not winding the odometer back when selling a second hand car. It means not misleading people about the discount they are getting by inflating the retail price. It means not skimping on the meat in a steak and cheese pie. It means not pumping chickens with water to make them heavier. It means being honest with nutritional information on labels.   

Honest weights support trust. Dishonest weights threaten trust. 

Conclusion:

This morning we have heard how the command not to steal applies in a variety of areas of life. The purpose with this command is to promote generosity and discourage greed. The intention is to create a sense of security in the neighbourhood and reduce anxiety. You shall not steal is also about fostering trust between people and preventing threat.

When we look at the life and ministry of Jesus, we notice the Lord was not really that attached to material possessions. His main concern was for eternal life with God the Father. Following this train of thought, our greatest love needs to Jesus, for it is in and through Christ that we have eternal life with God. 

When we are more attached to Jesus than things like money, cars, clothes, houses and furniture, then material possessions will hold less sway over us. It’s not that material things are bad. They are useful and we still need them in this world. But at the end of the day we will lose all that stuff anyway. You can’t take it with you. But nothing invested in God’s kingdom is ever lost.

Let us pray…

Gracious God, thank you for your generosity to us. May we be generous like you. Forgive us for the times we have threatened the poor, through our own ignorance and self-interest. Forgive those who have stolen our stuff, robbed our peace of mind and undermined our trust. Holy Spirit, strengthen our attachment to Jesus we pray. Amen.

Questions for discussion or reflection:

What stands out for you in reading these Scriptures and/or in listening to the sermon? Why do you think this stood out to you?

  • What was the world like when you were growing up as a child? How is it different today?
  • Have you been through the experience of being robbed? What happened? How did you feel / respond? Conversely, have you ever stolen from others? Why did you do this? How did stealing affect you?
  • How might the command not to move your neighbour’s boundary stone apply to us today?
  • In what ways did the law of Moses provide security for the poor? What can we do to strengthen security and reduce anxiety in our neighbourhoods today?
  • Why is the slave trade (kidnapping) so offensive to God?  When is it okay to charge interest on loans and when is it not okay?
  • What practical things can we do to strengthen our attachment to Jesus?
Tawa Baptist

High Fidelity

Scripture: Deuteronomy 5:18 and Matthew 5:27-28 & 31-32

Video Link: https://youtu.be/Pva-KR5maAE

Structure:

  • Introduction
  • What is adultery?
  • Strengthening marriage
  • Conclusion

Introduction:

Kia ora whanau and good morning everyone.

Normally my messages are rated PG but today’s sermon is more like an R16. Content may disturb. 

If I say the word, Hi-Fi, what am I talking about? [Wait]

That’s right, a Hi-Fi is a stereo system, for playing music. Hi-Fi is short for High Fidelity, meaning high quality sound reproduction.

Fidelity is another word for faithfulness. So a High Fidelity sound system is one which faithfully reproduces the original music to a high standard. A Hi-Fi sound is a pure sound, unadulterated.

Today we continue our series in Deuteronomy. We are up to that part (in chapter 5) where Moses reiterates the ten commandments or the ten words of Yahweh. Today our focus is the command, ‘You shall not commit adultery’, in verse 18.

In actual fact, God wants us to do more than just avoid adultery. His real intention here is for marriage to be high fidelity. Because a high fidelity marriage clearly reproduces the faithfulness of God and the faithfulness of God is music to the ears of his creation.

When we look at where adultery is placed among the ten commandments, we see it comes between murder and theft. In some ways, adultery is like murder in that it (usually) kills a marriage and breaks up a family. At the same time, it is also like theft in that it takes something precious that does not belong to you. 

The command prohibiting adultery is about protecting marriage. When you protect marriage, you protect families and when you protect families you strengthen society.  

Our message today puts the instruction of Moses (in Deuteronomy) alongside the teaching of Jesus (in the gospel of Matthew). Broadly speaking, we will look at what adultery is and how we might strengthen marriage.

What is adultery?

First though, what do we mean by adultery? Well, from a contemporary secular perspective, adultery is voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her spouse.

Or to put it more plainly, adultery is when a person who is married willingly has sex with someone they are not married to. Usually my sermons come with pictures to illustrate what I mean, but it doesn’t seem appropriate in this case.  

The Bible agrees with the secular definition of adultery, except that Jesus takes it even further.

In Matthew 5, Jesus says…

27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 

So by Jesus’ (kingdom of God) definition, you don’t need to have sex in order to commit adultery. You can be guilty of adultery without touching anyone. 

Like much of Jesus’ sermon on the mount, the Lord is setting the bar of holiness very high indeed. There are a couple of things to clarify here.

Firstly, Jesus appears to be addressing married men in these verses, for he says anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery. Is he being sexist? Does this mean that only men can commit adultery and that women are not culpable?

No. Jesus is not being sexist. Women are just as capable of adultery as men and can be just as guilty. We need to understand that Jesus was speaking into a patriarchal culture. In a patriarchal society men are in control and women are generally subservient to their husbands. So there is a power imbalance.

As I read it, Jesus is addressing married men because they are the ones with the power. He is telling men to be responsible and use their power to protect their families by guarding against adultery.

At the same time, I think Jesus is undermining a common male prejudice that women are the problem; that women are somehow to blame for adultery. It’s her fault for dressing like that. Or it’s her fault for flirting with me in that way.

Jesus is not having any of that. Guys, you can’t blame women for your own selfish desire. That’s not fair. A man needs to take responsibility for controlling himself. He needs to keep it in his pants, especially in a society where women are not treated equally.  

Okay, so what does Jesus mean by looking at a woman lustfully? Well, lust is the hunger or the desire to possess someone else for your own self-gratification. Let me explain by way of example. And for this example to work you need to think of yourself as married.

You might be taking the train into the city when you notice someone who looks quite attractive. You think to yourself, they’re handsome or they’re beautiful. You don’t stare at them though. You don’t want to possess them for your own self-gratification. Instead you check the emails on your phone and your mind quickly moves on to its next thought. That is not lust or adultery.

But what if, in that scenario, an impure thought momentarily and involuntarily enters your mind. You quickly caste it out with a silent prayer, then distract yourself by doing the daily Wordle. Is that adultery? No. That is not adultery. That is temptation.

Temptation is that thin line between right and wrong. Temptation is the doorway to evil deeds. In the scenario I just described you did not cross the line of temptation. You backed away from it. Well done you.

Okay, so when does it become adultery? Well, you are on the train. You see the beautiful person. An impure thought enters your mind but this time, instead of distracting yourself with the Wordle, you welcome the thought in. You start undressing that person in your mind or you imagine them in the shower. Okay, now stop imagining. (I did warn you, this message is R16.)

If you entertain that kind of fantasy you have crossed the line of temptation and you have committed adultery with that person in your heart. You have wanted to possess that person for your own self-gratification.

You might say, that’s disgusting, I would never think like that. The truth is you don’t know the depths of your own heart. None of us knows what we might do given the opportunity. Remember how king David fell. He watched Bathsheba from a distance as she bathed naked and then he sent for her so he could sleep with her. So he could possess her for his own self-gratification.

Having said that, I don’t want you leave here today thinking, everyone is undressing me with their eyes. Most people are not thinking about you at all.

The point is, we have to be very careful with our thoughts. Thoughts are like seeds. A good thought grows into good actions. But the seed of a bad thought bears the fruit of all sorts of wrong doing. Where lust is the root, adultery is the fruit. Jesus wants us to nip adultery in the bud and prevent wrong doing before it has a chance to bear fruit. 

Choose prevention, not perversion. Choose self-denial, not self-gratification.

We are talking about what adultery is and what it means to look at someone lustfully, because by Jesus’ definition lust qualifies as adultery.

Now at this point some of you may be thinking, what about pornography? How does that fit with Jesus’ definition of adultery? Well, pornography encourages lust. Pornography provides the means for self-gratification. So, by Jesus’ standards, the use of pornography is a form of adultery.

The ancient Greek word for sexual immorality, in a general sense, is porneia, The English word pornography comes from the Greek word porneia. Pornography literally means ‘sexually immoral images’.  

In mainstream media, the use of pornography is accepted as normal and okay, provided it doesn’t involve children. But for Christians no form of pornography is acceptable, whether you are married or single.

Some people might say, ‘What’s the problem with pornography? No one is getting hurt’. That is simply not true. People are being hurt by pornography.

The use of pornography has the potential to destroy a marriage. God’s intention is for a husband and wife to give themselves to each other fully. If the husband is giving part of himself to dirty magazines and dodgey websites, then his wife is not getting the best of him.     

Deeper than this, pornography hurts the one who uses it. The more someone uses pornography the more likely they are to have impure thoughts about random strangers on the train. Pornography distorts our perception. It causes us to see other people as objects for our own self-gratification. Things to consume rather than human beings made in the image of God.

Whether you are married or single, please (for your own sake) do not go down the path of using pornography. It will put you in a prison that is very difficult to escape from.  

Deuteronomy 5, verse 21, reads: “You shall not covet your neighbour’s wife”.

In Catholic and Lutheran tradition, this verse (about not coveting your neighbour’s wife) stands alone as the ninth commandment. It is not lumped together with coveting your neighbour’s house and donkey. Wives are qualitatively different from houses and cars.

In the Greek version of the Old Testament, the word translated as covet is the same word Jesus uses for lust in Matthew 5. Lust / covet, same word in the original Greek. This is because coveting (like lust) is about the hunger or the desire to possess someone or something for our own self-gratification.

The implication here is that adultery isn’t just about sexual desire. Adultery can be about desiring someone else’s spouse for any reason. For example, a woman may covet her neighbour’s husband because he is good at earning money. In that case the lust isn’t sexual, it’s about greed or insecurity.    

Adultery doesn’t always present itself as so obviously evil. More often the temptation to self-gratification presents itself as something good, at first, but we don’t realise the path we are on until too late.

Returning to our train scenario. Imagine someone sits beside you on the train. You don’t have any inappropriate thoughts. You talk about the weather.  A couple of days later you sit together again and they share a few small details of their life. Turns out they work in a government department.

The weeks go by and you look forward to your daily commute. Your train buddy is easy to talk to. You feel comfortable with them. One day, their hand brushes against yours. It feels electric. You wonder if they felt it too. 

You find yourself thinking of them more and more after that. Innocent enough thoughts. You wonder what they might be having for dinner, whether they are watching the same TV programme as you, what they are planning for the weekend, that sort of thing.

Over the course of weeks and months you learn bits and pieces of their story. How their husband or wife left them to raise a child on their own. You feel a kind of empathy for their situation and before long you imagine yourself coming to their rescue, being their white knight or their Fraulein Maria.

Next you find they are populating your every waking thought. You become jealous when you see anyone else talking with them. You start going to the gym more often and eating a little less to get in shape, just in case.

At the same time, you pull away from your own spouse. You stay later at work, you talk less when you come home, you are more irritable with your family and you choose to withhold sex from your husband or wife.

Occasionally, you have a twinge of guilt but it soon passes. How can this be wrong when I feel so good? Besides, you are not sleeping with your train buddy (at least not yet). But still, your loyalty is divided. You are having an affair of the heart. You are trapped in a fantasy, an illusion which gratifies your ego or at least dulls the pain you feel. This too is a form of adultery.

Okay, so we’ve talked about the physical act of adultery, which is normally preceded by mental and emotional adultery, an adultery of the heart. But there is another kind of adultery too. In Matthew 5, verses 31-32, Jesus says…

31 “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

This is high fidelity stuff. Again, Jesus’ words here need to be understood in their proper context. A man in ancient Jewish culture could divorce his wife simply by writing her a letter of dismissal. Jewish women had no legal right to divorce their husband. It was a patriarchal society. Power imbalance.   

The conservatives of Jesus’ day said the only justifiable cause for divorcing your wife was if she was guilty of sexual immorality of some kind (porneia). The liberals, on the other hand, said a man could divorce his wife for anything. Maybe if she burnt the dinner or if he decided he liked the lady on the train more.

Not all husbands were so callous. Some loved their wives and remained loyal to them. But, by and large, men at that time felt entitled to send their wife away at a moment’s notice.

This was incredibly unfair to women, especially when we remember they had no social welfare benefit to fall back on and career options were limited.

Jesus took a hard line approach on the issue of divorce because he could see men were abusing the law at the expense of women and children. Some husbands were using a loop hole to get rid of their old wife so they could marry a new one. Serial monogamy. That is effectively the same as adultery, just with a thin veil of respectability.

Jesus is saying, it’s not okay guys for you opt out of your marriage commitment for your own convenience. Men, you need to stay loyal to your wife.

Now I imagine there will be some here who have been through the pain of divorce and remarriage. These words of Jesus are not meant to condemn you. Jesus’ intent is to protect those who are most vulnerable.

Your attitude to marriage and the reasons for your divorce may be entirely different from the problem Jesus was addressing in the first century. If you have left a marriage because you were abused or abandoned or betrayed, that’s a different matter. 

Whatever the circumstances of your divorce, God is gracious. I believe the Lord is willing to forgive anyone who is genuinely repentant.

The other thing I want to make plain is that, by Jesus’ standards, almost everyone listening to this is guilty of committing adultery, if not in deed then in their heart. And so no one here has the moral high ground. We are all in need of God’s mercy and forgiveness.

Returning to the main point. As Christians we are called to high fidelity in marriage. For us, marriage needs to be about commitment, not convenience. Divorce, in order to trade up to someone you like better, is not allowed for believers.

Strengthening marriage:

Okay, so now that we have explored what adultery is, let’s turn to something more positive. How do we strengthen marriage? How do we improve fidelity in marriage? I have three D’s for you: Discipleship, delight and disclosure.

Many people these days look to marriage as a means for self-fulfilment. They approach marriage with the mind-set of what can I get out of this? How can this benefit me? How can this make me happy? Me, me, me.

That sort of expectation puts way too much pressure on a marriage. As soon as one partner is unhappy, they look for a way out.

There are benefits and happiness in being married but marriage can also be difficult at times. A husband and wife need to be prepared to weather some unhappiness and stick with each other through the tough times.  

When Jesus talked about marriage it was often in the context of discipleship.    A disciple is a student or an apprentice. A disciple of Christ is someone who is learning to be like Christ. Marriage is one way to learn to be more like Jesus. It’s not the only way but if you are married it is probably the main way.

When we think of marriage not as something that fulfils me but rather as an opportunity to love and serve our partner, even when that involves sacrifice, then our expectations will be far more realistic. Over time, we will strengthen our marriage relationship, we will build our character and become more like Christ.

For example, there might be times in your marriage when you go months (perhaps longer) without having sex, due to illness or busy-ness or whatever.

If that happens you don’t think, where can I go to get some satisfaction? (Maybe I’ll take the train to work today.) No. As a disciple you think, how can I learn to be more like Christ through this experience? Jesus was celibate. I too will practice self-control and find other ways to be intimate with my spouse.

Another example of how discipleship works: In any marriage there will be little things that irk you about your partner. Small frustrations. Maybe they always leave the toilet seat up or they put the milk bottle back in the fridge when the bottle is empty or they don’t replace the toilet roll or they throw the tooth paste out before it has been fully used, or they restack the dishwasher after you’ve already done it, or something else that might annoy you.

Those moments of frustration are part of your discipleship. They are an opportunity to develop patience and show grace, as Jesus does for us.      

Our second D stands for delight. Husbands and wives can strengthen fidelity in marriage by delighting in each other. This means having fun together in a whole variety of ways, including enjoying each other’s bodies.

As we read in Proverbs 5: 18 May your fountain be blessed, may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.

Although that verse is addressed to a man, it applies to women as well. Wives, may you rejoice in the husband of your youth, may his fountain satisfy you always.

The point is, when a husband and wife are looking for ways to make each other happy, they will have no need to look elsewhere.

Disclosure is another way to strengthen fidelity in marriage. Disclosure is about being open and honest with your spouse. Not keeping secrets. Now, as a pastor, I can’t tell Robyn everything about my work. There are some things people tell me in confidence and that stays with me.

Disclosure in marriage means answering any question your partner asks in relation to you and your relationship together. It means letting your spouse have access to your phone, your computer and your diary. It also means paying attention and listening well to what your husband or wife is saying to you.     

Disclosure, being honest, is not always easy to do. It is a learned skill. It takes patience and time. Saying the first 90% of what you need to say is relatively painless. It’s the last 10% of your truth that tends to hurt. But at the intersection of truth and love, trust is formed and intimacy is allowed to breathe.

Viewing marriage as a pathway of discipleship, delighting in your spouse and learning the art of graceful disclosure, all these things strengthen fidelity in marriage.  

Conclusion:

There’s one more thing I want to share with you, a single verse from Deuteronomy 24, which reads: 5 If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.

Moses was wise. This is about laying a good foundation in your marriage. And its great advice for anyone who is married, whether it’s been one year or 50 years. Don’t just avoid adultery, foster high fidelity in your marriage. Bring happiness to your wife or husband.

Let us pray…

Loving God, you are faithful through all the seasons of life. By your standards most of us are guilty of adultery, if not in deed then in our hearts. Forgive us we pray. Whether we are married or single, may you satisfy our hunger for love. May our relationships be characterised by commitment, not convenience. By self-giving, not self-gratification. Through Jesus we pray. Amen.

Next week we look at the commandment about not stealing. I expect the message will be rated PG. So you should feel more comfortable, unless you are a burglar. May God bless you (and be careful on the train this week). 

Questions for discussion or reflection:

What stands out for you in reading this Scripture and/or in listening to the sermon? Why do you think this stood out to you?

  • What is adultery? How does a secular understanding of adultery differ from Jesus’ teaching on adultery? What is adultery of the heart? Where do you draw the line?  
  • Why did Jesus specifically address married men in Matthew 5:28?
  • How might we deal with impure thoughts? How might someone recover from pornography?
  • Why did Jesus take a hard line approach against divorce in Matthew 5:32? Why did Jesus insist on such a high standard of fidelity in marriage? 
  • What difference does it make thinking of marriage as a pathway of discipleship, rather than a pathway to self-fulfilment?
  • What practical things can people do to strengthen fidelity in marriage?
Tawa Baptist

Protect Life

Scripture: Deuteronomy 5:17; 19:1-13; 21:1-9 and Matthew 5:21-26

Video Link: https://youtu.be/3jKtfMUW85s

Structure:

  • Introduction
  • Murder – protect life
  • Manslaughter – pursue justice
  • Mystery – provide atonement
  • Conclusion

Introduction:

Good morning everyone.

Have you ever noticed how many books, TV series and movies involve a murder mystery? Most of us would recoil in shock and horror if we were ever involved in a real life murder but, for some strange reason, we still like a good who dun it story.

Why is that I wonder? Is it simply the desire to solve the puzzle? Or is it the satisfaction of seeing justice done? Or maybe a fascination with own our mortality? I don’t know?

Personally, I have enjoyed G.K. Chesterton’s character, Father Brown, and also James Runcie’s hero priest, Sydney Chambers. They are pretty tame though. Anything too violent I don’t find entertaining.   

This morning we continue our series in Deuteronomy. We are up to that part (in chapter 5) where Moses reiterates the ten commandments or ten words of Yahweh. Today our focus is the command, ‘You shall not murder’, in verse 17.

You would think a short command like that would be fairly straight forward. You shall not murder. Sounds like a good idea. Sermon done. Well, not quite. It turns out killing can be quite complicated.

Our message this morning looks at three of the problems that come with killing. There is the problem of murder, the problem of manslaughter and the problem of mystery deaths. Deuteronomy has a method and purpose in dealing with each of these problems.  First, let’s consider the problem of murder…

Murder:

Some Bibles translate the commandment as You shall not kill while others go with You shall not murder. So which is it? Because murder has a different nuance of meaning to the word kill.   

If you kill a wild deer, when you are out hunting, that is not considered murder. Likewise, if a soldier kills someone in battle, that is not considered murder either. Murder normally refers to the premeditated killing of an individual person, outside the context of a war. 

Well, the Hebrew word for kill, in a general sense, is harag. (Please excuse my poor pronunciation.) A shepherd might harag a wolf to protect his sheep. Or a soldier might harag an enemy soldier to protect his country.

The Hebrew verb, normally translated as murder, is ratsakh. A different word from kill.

Deuteronomy 5:17 uses ratsakh, which usually means the wilful, premeditated killing of another human being out of hatred, anger, passion, envy, fear or for some other reason the community regards as illegitimate. [1]

To complicate matters, the word ratsakh is sometimes also used when talking about accidental killings. However, the context always makes it clear what the writer means. In the context of Deuteronomy 5, the command is best understood in English as, you shall not murder.

For us 21st Century Western readers, the prohibition against murder raises a whole raft of questions. For example, why is murder outlawed in the Old Testament, while Holy War is permitted under certain circumstances?

Some might also ask questions of the Biblical text that the original writers were not trying to answer. For example, is abortion murder? What about euthanasia, how does that fit with this command?

These sorts of questions need to be taken seriously and the people whose lives are affected by these questions need to be treated with respect. For that reason, I’m not going to attempt to answer these concerns in this sermon. We simply can’t do justice to these subjects in the time available.

I will say this though: one of the main purposes of the law of Moses is to protect life. Protecting human life is certainly the purpose with the prohibition against murder.

Thou shalt not murder is not unique to Jewish / Christian religion. It goes back centuries before Moses. Pretty much every culture and religion has a rule against murder.

In Genesis 9, after the great flood when God was cutting a covenant with Noah, the Lord said: 6 “Whoever sheds human blood, by humans shall their blood be shed; for in the image of God has God made mankind.

Human beings are made in the image of God and that makes our lives sacred. In addition to the harm a murder causes families and the wider community, to murder someone is to assault the image of God. It is a personal affront to God.

The Law of Moses commanded the death penalty for murderers. In the historical context of the time, the death penalty provided a strong deterrent to murder and it satisfied natural justice, putting an end to the matter. The death penalty was also a way for Israel to maintain the moral purity of the nation.

Does that mean we should return to the death penalty today? Well, the larger Biblical narrative shows a God who is both just and merciful. A God who makes people accountable for their actions but who also looks for ways to redeem wrong doers.

God protected Cain after Cain had murdered his brother Abel, although there were still consequences for Cain. Likewise, God did not have David killed after David murdered Uriah. By the same token, God did not let David get off Scott free. David and his family still faced judgment.      

Looking at the Bible as whole, I don’t think we should think of the death penalty for murder as an ideal to strive for. Jesus shows us through his teaching and his example the ideal of God’s Kingdom. In Matthew 5 we read…

21 “You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘You shall not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.’ 22 But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sisterwill be subject to judgment.

As I understand these verses, Jesus is wanting to prevent murder from happening in the first place, by nipping anger in the bud. If murder is the fruit, then anger is the root. When we learn to positively manage our anger, we have a better chance of avoiding violence.

In order to manage our anger, we must first be aware of when we are feeling angry. What are our triggers? What are the things that press our buttons? Try to avoid those triggers if you can.

Anger is normally a secondary emotion. So the next question is, what’s fuelling my anger? Is my anger unrighteous; the product of my own envy, hate ignorance and fear? Or is my anger righteous; a reaction to some kind of injustice?

If my anger is unrighteous, then I need to get my heart and head straight. I need to humble myself and seek to make things right. But if my anger is righteous, then I need to take a breath and ask God what he wants me to do about it, if anything.

Jesus rightly became angry at the injustice he saw with the money changers in the temple and he overturned their tables as a prophetic statement, an acted out parable. Jesus was not envious or fearful of the money changers. Nor did he hate them. To the contrary, Jesus was acting in love to give everyone a fair deal.

We are not Jesus though. The difficulty is that, in the heat of the moment, we become blind. We may feel completely justified in calling someone an idiot or throwing a punch, but we don’t see the whole picture. Exercising self-control and managing our anger requires us to slow down and think.

Okay, so where the problem is murder, Deuteronomy prohibits murder and provides the death penalty as a deterrent. The purpose of the Law here is to protect human life.

As followers of Jesus we are not to come anywhere close to murder. We are to practice self-control. That means nipping unrighteous anger in the bud and channelling righteous anger in a non-violent way.

We can’t expect self-control to come naturally though. Self-control is one of the fruits of the Spirit and needs to be cultivated through the practice of certain spiritual disciplines, like slowing down to make time for prayer and reflection.  

Manslaughter:

What about the problem of manslaughter or accidental killings? Well, Deuteronomy has some advice on that issue as well. In chapter 19 we read about the provision of ‘cities of refuge’ for those who accidentally kill a neighbour without malice or premeditation. From verse 5 we read…

5 For instance, a man may go into the forest with his neighbour to cut wood, and as he swings his axe to fell a tree, the head may fly off and hit his neighbour and kill him. That man may flee to one of these cities [of refuge] and save his life. 6 Otherwise, the avenger of blood might pursue him in a rage, overtake him if the distance is too great, and kill him even though he is not deserving of death, since he did it to his neighbour without malice aforethought.

When I was at High School another guy (First 15, Maadi cup, body builder sports type) pushed me to the ground and punched me in the face while I was still on the ground. I never saw it coming.

A teacher stopped him before he did too much damage and took us both to the Principal. It turns out this guy thought I had stood on his pie. I didn’t stand on his pie. I was just in the wrong place at the wrong time.

In the heat of his anger he thought he was completely justified in taking revenge. Afterwards though, when his perspective had returned, he felt bad and regretted his actions. It didn’t really bother me. I let it go and moved on. 

Life is messy. People make mistakes. Accidents happen. Sometimes wires get crossed and reason goes out the window. Moses understood this and provided cities of refuge for the innocent to escape to when things went pear shaped.   

There were to be six of these cities of refuge, three on each side of the Jordan River, and each with good roads leading to them, so the accidental killer could escape before being overtaken by the avenger of blood.

When we hear the phrase ‘avenger of blood’, we might think of Marvel comic book heroes like Iron Man, Captain America, the Hulk and so on. That’s not what Deuteronomy means by an avenger.

The avenger of blood was a close relative who, in ancient near eastern culture, was honour bound to kill the person who had murdered their family member. Deuteronomy did not outlaw this wild west form of retribution but it did try to restrict it so that revenge killings at least served the purpose of justice.

Sometimes the avenger of blood would act in the heat of the moment without waiting for a proper legal process to sort out the facts. This could lead to miscarriages of justice if the avenger got the wrong person or misunderstood the situation.    

The problem with accidental killings is that there are two victims. The person who died and the one who inadvertently caused the death. Imagine the burden of guilt you would carry. How do you live with that? Someone who commits manslaughter is innocent of pre-meditated murder and therefore justice requires they be treated in a more lenient way.

Having an accessible city of refuge to escape to, gave the accidental killer sanctuary until the case could be decided properly by the elders of the town. Moses was trying to promote proper processes of justice and prevent angry relatives from taking matters into their own hands.

The purpose of the law here (and elsewhere) is to encourage people to pursue justice, not revenge.

We often associate the Old Testament with the verse: ‘an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth’. That saying was not intended to promote revenge. It was intended to limit revenge and ensure that justice was done by making the punishment fit the crime.

The Old Testament, like the New Testament, promotes justice with mercy. In Leviticus (an Old Testament book) we read: Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against one of your people but love your neighbour as you love yourself. 

Sounds a lot like something Jesus would say, don’t you think? Except that Jesus took it even further saying, in Matthew 5…

43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbour and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be children of your Father in heaven.

The part about loving your neighbour comes from the Old Testament. But the part about hating your enemy does not come from anywhere in the Bible. That’s just a made up saying.

Loving your enemies is the opposite of retaliation. Perhaps the greatest expression of love is forgiveness. This teaching of Jesus is incredibly difficult to apply because it requires us to submit to unjust treatment. We need to accept God’s forgiveness for ourselves before we can forgive others.

Okay, so where the problem is manslaughter, Deuteronomy says, ‘provide cities of refuge’. The purpose of the Law here is to encourage the community to pursue justice and not take revenge prematurely.

As followers of Jesus we are to resist the temptation to take revenge and practice forgiveness. Jesus shows us most clearly what love and forgiveness looks like in the way he went to the cross without defending himself.

Though he was powerful, with legions of angels at his disposal, Jesus did not lift a finger against his enemies. And though he was innocent, Jesus did not insist on justice for himself. Instead, Jesus prayed for his persecutors saying: Father forgive them, for they know not what they do.     

We’ve talked about the problem of murder and the problem of manslaughter. What to do though when there is a mystery death? Deuteronomy recommends providing atonement.

Mystery:  

In Deuteronomy 21, we read that where someone is found dead in a field and it is not known who the killer is, the elders of the town nearest the dead body shall make atonement by breaking the neck of an unworked heifer beside a flowing stream. 

6 Then all the elders of the town nearest the body shall wash their hands over the heifer whose neck was broken in the valley, 7 and they shall declare: “Our hands did not shed this blood, nor did our eyes see it done. 8 Accept this atonement for your people Israel, whom you have redeemed, Lord, and do not hold your people guilty of the blood of an innocent person.” Then the bloodshed will be atoned for,

Atonement is the action of making amends for a wrong or an injury. For example, if someone borrows your car and gets a speeding ticket while driving it, then they might make atonement by paying the fine. Or, if someone in a position of responsibility fails in their duty, they might make atonement by resigning from their job. Or, if colonists steal land from the indigenous people, then they might make atonement by returning the land.

Atonement, in a religious sense, has to do with the removal of guilt. The ritual described in Deuteronomy 21 removed any suggestion of guilt from the land and from the people who had no part in the crime.

We, who live in the contemporary western world, might struggle to see how breaking the neck of a perfectly good heifer atones for an unsolved killing. But it doesn’t need to make sense to us. The point is, it made sense to people in ancient Israel.

Having a special ritual like this did a number of things. Firstly, it protected the community from indifference. If someone is killed, that is a serious matter and should not be ignored or swept under the carpet. It needs to be brought into the light and that person’s life needs to be honoured in some way.

Furthermore, Deuteronomy 21 recognises the corporate responsibility of the entire community for the crimes of individuals. Unless the community responds to the crime, by formally declaring it’s innocence, the guilt of the individual rests on the heads of the whole community. [2]

We may struggle with that way of thinking because we live in a relatively individualistic society, one in which people are quick to avoid responsibility. We would do well to consider how our community makes atonement for serious wrong doing.

The purpose of the law, in Deuteronomy 21, is to make atonement for the land and for the community. Thinking of atonement reminds me of what Jesus says, in Matthew 5:23-24…

23 “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.

I expect Jesus had atonement in mind when he gave this teaching. ‘Making amends’ is one of the essential steps in any reconciliation process.

Jesus himself provided atonement for us on the cross. It is through faith in Jesus’ death and resurrection that we are reconciled to God. There is a mystery to the cross and to the atonement Jesus accomplishes on our behalf. We can’t quite grasp how it works but we don’t need to. Atonement, with a view to reconciliation, always involves an element of faith.

Conclusion:

This morning we have heard what Deuteronomy has to say in relation to the problems of murder, manslaughter and mystery deaths. Murder is prohibited. Cities of refuge are provided for those who commit manslaughter and the community together is to take responsibility for unsolved deaths.  

The purpose of the law in all these cases is to protect life, pursue justice and provide atonement.

Jesus fulfils the law and in so doing shows us three values or practices of heaven. Namely: self-control, forgiveness and reconciliation.

What is the Spirit of Jesus saying today? How might this apply to us?

Well, how short is your fuse? How quickly do you lose your temper? Anger is dangerous. Like embers of a fire, anger takes time to cool and can easily be stirred up to full blaze again. Don’t give your anger oxygen. Don’t give it fuel. Don’t keep replaying old grievances in your mind. Let it go. Ask God for the cooling water of grace to forgive.

Perhaps you are not harbouring anger. Perhaps you are exhausted from carrying guilt over some harm you have caused. If the harm was accidental, unintentional, then you are a victim too. Not that you allow yourself the indulgence of thinking that way.

Guilt makes us a prisoner to fear. Guilt forces us to run and hide. Are you looking for refuge, a safe place to rest, to escape the avenger who is always as close as your troubled conscience? 

Jesus is a refuge for the guilty. More than that, he is the bridge of atonement. Lay your guilt at the foot of the cross. Make your confession to Jesus. Trust the Lord to justify you. Accept God’s forgiveness and let Christ make amends for you. 

Let us pray…

Father God, forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us. Replace our fear with love. Replace our guilt with righteousness. Replace our anger with grace. Lord, we ask for mercy in Jesus’ name. Amen.

Questions for discussion or reflection:

What stands out for you in reading this Scripture and/or in listening to the sermon? Why do you think this stood out to you?

  • Do you like murder mysteries and who dun it stories? If you do, what are your favourites? Why do you like murder mysteries?
  • Why did Jesus say, “anyone who is angry with a brother or sisterwill be subject to judgment”? What strategies (or spiritual disciplines) can we practice to cultivate self-control and positively manage our anger? How can we tell when our anger is righteous and when it is unrighteous?
  • What was the law of Moses encouraging with the designation of cities of refuge?
  • What is atonement? Why was it necessary for the village elders to make atonement for unsolved deaths? How might local communities make atonement for serious wrong doing these days?
  • Discuss / reflect on the three purposes of the law covered in the sermon above. That is, to protect life, pursue justice and provide atonement? How do these interact with each other? How might we apply these principles today?
  • Have you ever felt guilty? How did you find release from your guilt? Have you ever felt angry? How did you find release from your anger?

[1] Refer Patrick Miller’s Interpretation Commentary on Deuteronomy, page 87. 

[2] Refer Daniel Block, NIVAC Deuteronomy, page 492. 

Tawa Baptist

Honour

Scripture: Deuteronomy 5:16

Video Link: https://youtu.be/Lt475BHSMYs

Structure:

  • Introduction
  • What?
  • Why?
  • How?
  • Conclusion

Introduction:

Good morning everyone.

Many of you of will be familiar with the TV show, The Repair Shop. In The Repair Shop people bring in broken family heirlooms for a team of skilled crafts people to restore.

First the family come in and tell the story behind the item they want repaired. Then the item is worked on, before the family return for the great reveal. Tears inevitably follow.

I like The Repair Shop because it is essentially about redemption. Not only is the object itself redeemed but, at a deeper level, honour is restored.

Time and time again we hear how people are having the item restored to honour a parent or grandparent. The object itself becomes symbolic of the relationship. Restore the broken object and in some way you have honoured the person who gave you the object.

This morning we continue our series in the book of Deuteronomy. You may remember we have been working our way through Moses’ reiteration of the ten commandments. Today we pick up the commandment to honour our parents. From Deuteronomy 5, verse 16 we read…

16 “Honour your father and your mother, as the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live long and that it may go well with you in the land the Lord your God is giving you.

May the Spirit of Jesus illuminate God’s word for us.

Our message today focuses on three questions in relation to this verse: what, why and how? What is honour? Why do we honour our parents? And how do we honour our parents? First let’s consider what honour is.

What?

In English the term honour is associated with words like esteem, reverence, respect, dignity and integrity. Honour can be a noun (a naming word) or a verb (a doing word). As a verb, honour is about treating someone with respect and it’s about fulfilling our obligations, making good on our commitments. An honourable person does the right thing by themselves and others.

Esteem, respect, dignity, integrity and the like, all fit with the Biblical meaning of honour as well. But there is another nuance to the meaning of honour in the context of Deuteronomy. The Hebrew word for honour (kabbed) means the opposite of curse.

Elsewhere in the law of Moses the command to honour your father and mother is stated negatively and with a punishment. In Leviticus 20, for example, we read: If anyone curses his father or mother, he must be put to death.

Cursing, in this context, does not mean using foul language with your parents (although we should avoid swearing of course). Cursing is the opposite of honouring. To curse means to treat lightly or with contempt. To regard someone of little account. To treat a parent without dignity or without worth. [1]

If cursing one’s parents is the opposite of honouring them, and cursing equates to treating them lightly or with contempt, then to honour your parents is to treat the relationship as a weighty matter, something of great importance. Your parents’ well-being is not to be taken lightly.  

We might look at Leviticus 20, through our 21st Century western lens and think, ‘Whoa, the death penalty for cursing your parents is a bit harsh isn’t it?’

Well, I don’t think Jesus wants to condemn someone to death for mistreating their parents. Jesus would be looking for a way to redeem that person.

In Luke 15, Jesus tells the parable of the Prodigal Son. When the younger son asked for his share of the inheritance before his father had died, he was basically cursing his father. That was like saying, ‘I wish you were dead’.

To then go away and waste his father’s money on sex, drugs and rock n’ roll was to treat his relationship with his mother and father lightly or with contempt.     

In Jesus’ parable, the father does not kill the prodigal son for cursing him. The father welcomes him with open arms and gives him a place of honour. It is the kindness of God that leads people to repentance.

Having said that, we need to honour the law of Moses by seeking to understand it in its original context.

The commandment to honour your parents was given primarily to adults. Yes, young children are to honour their parents too but we shouldn’t think that every time a small child or a teenager got a bit grumpy with Mum or Dad, they were dragged out to be stoned. No.

The law of Moses was all about protecting the weak and the vulnerable. And, in the context of Deuteronomy 5 the weak and vulnerable are aging parents. Honouring your father and mother is about adult children taking care of their parents, not neglecting them or abusing them.  

Getting old is not easy. It’s tough. It comes with more pain and more challenges. Everything is harder and takes longer. The powers you possessed as a younger person seem to drain away.

The law of the jungle says, ‘Survival of the fittest individual’ and ‘Look out for number one’. But the law of Moses says, ‘No, no. We are all in this together. It’s survival of the kindest community’. The people of God take care of the elderly and infirm.

Okay, so when Moses talks about honouring your parents, what he means is, treat your relationship with your parents as a weighty matter, something of great importance. Don’t take your parents’ well-being lightly. 

Why?

But why should we honour our parents?  Well, the rest of verse 16 gives us two reasons why…

Firstly, because the Lord your God has commanded you.

This means, parents have a God given authority in relationship to their children. God has authorised parents to protect, provide for and teach their young children. Parenting is a sacred responsibility. 

Now let me be very clear. When I say that parents have a God given authority in relationship to their children, I do not mean that parents can do whatever they want where their children are concerned. No.

Parents are not authorised to abuse or neglect their children. They simply have a right to protect, provide for and teach the children God has entrusted to their care. So it is in this context that children have an obligation before God to accept the security and wisdom their parents have to offer.

Maybe, when you were young, your parents did not have the means to provide you with everything you wanted. Maybe you got the cheap jeans instead of the Levis. Maybe you missed out on the overseas trip or the new bike. Honouring your Mum & Dad means appreciating what they were able to provide and not despising them or resenting them for what they could not afford.   

Raising a family is hard work. Most parents are doing the best they can under the circumstances. Unfortunately, we often don’t figure that out until we become parents ourselves.

As our parents get older the relationship changes and the roles reverse so that adult children become responsible for protecting and providing for their elderly parents. This is the right and honourable thing to do.

Jesus was pretty strong on this idea of honouring your parents. In Matthew 15 the religious leaders ask Jesus why his disciples don’t wash their hands and Jesus responds by saying to the Pharisees…

3“And why do you disobey God’s command and follow your own teaching? 4 For God said, ‘Honour your father and your mother,’ and ‘If you curse your father or your mother, you are to be put to death.’ 5 But you teach that if people have something they could use to help their father or mother, but say, ‘This belongs to God,’ 6 they do not need to honour their father.In this way you disregard God’s command, in order to follow your own teaching.

Charity begins at home, as my grandfather used to say.

We are talking about why we should honour our parents. Firstly, because God commands it and secondly (from Deuteronomy 5, verse 16)…

…so that you may live long and that it may go well with you in the land the Lord your God is giving you.

Now, this promise is best interpreted in community terms, not in individual terms. The promise here is not so much long life for each individual child who obeys their parents. It’s more the benefit of social stability for any society in which children generally honour their parents. [2] 

In other words, when we honour our parents it is good for everyone. The family is the basic building block of society. Good family relationships are the glue that hold a society together and enable it to function well.

When large numbers of families break down, so does the fabric of society. But when families function well, looking after each other, society flourishes and the nation as a whole lasts a long time in the land.

If you think about it, taking care of the elderly is your insurance. If you have treated your parents well, your kids will see that and be more inclined to treat you well. What goes around comes around.

So, we honour our parents because God commands it, because natural justice requires it and because it benefits society, which in turn benefits us personally.

How?

We’ve talked about the what and the why, of honouring our parents. Now let’s consider the how.

Perhaps the best way of honouring your parents is by the way you live your life. Being a blessing to your parents. Not causing your parents grief or worry or anguish by the choices you make. Relating well with your siblings so that family get togethers are a source of joy and not conflict.

If your parents and grandparents have made sacrifices to give you a good start in this world, then give them a good return for their investment.

I never met my great-grandfather but I was given his Bible. In the front of the Bible are written these words: “Special prize, presented to Albert Anderson for essay on the life of Joshua… 28 October 1908”     

I am told that Albert was a devout Christian who took his faith seriously and apparently had some aptitude for Biblical study.

Six years after receiving this Bible, Albert put his tools down (he was a carpenter) and enlisted in the New Zealand Expeditionary forces to fight in the First World War. He came home to New Zealand five years later.

On his return Albert kept his faith and attended church regularly, but I don’t think he was ever quite the same. People called him ‘silent Albie’ because he didn’t talk much.

After the war his wife died and the great depression of the 1930’s followed. Life was not easy for him. He did not have the same opportunities or choices that most of us enjoy. Albert died of cancer before reaching old age.

I sometimes wonder how his life might have turned out if he didn’t go to war or if his wife didn’t die so young or if university had been an option for him. Would he have pursued his love of the Bible and become a preacher? Would he have chosen a different path? Who knows?

What I do know is that I honour his life, his suffering and his hardship by the way I live my life and by making the most of the opportunities I have been given. How do you honour your parents and grandparents?

In Ephesians 6, the apostle Paul has this to say about how children are to honour their parents: Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.  2 “Honour your father and mother”

Hmm? Do we really have to obey our parents? Well, the context suggests the children Paul is addressing here are young. Because, in verse 4, Paul gives some advice to parents saying…

4 Fathers,do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

The children in this context, therefore, are still at home and dependent on their parents. More importantly though the children are being told to obey their parents in the instruction of the Lord. So obedience is required when parents are teaching their children to follow Jesus.

Paul is encouraging Christian parents to think of themselves as making disciples of their children. Parents are like missionaries to their children. You don’t have to go overseas to make disciples. Discipleship starts in the home. Don’t leave the internet to raise your kids.

In Luke chapter 2 we come across a story from Jesus’ childhood. The story ends with Luke saying that Jesus was obedient to his parents.

Jesus’ parents were Godly people, even if they didn’t quite understand their son. By submitting to Mary & Joseph, Jesus was essentially submitting to God, his heavenly Father, who entrusted Jesus to Mary & Joseph’s care.

Obviously, if parents tell a child to do something that is clearly wrong or immoral, the child does not need to obey. Our first allegiance is always to God. 

Ideally, we are aiming for a mutually respectful relationship with our parents. One in which they consider for us and we consider for them. If, as adults, our parents ask something of us that we can’t do, then we have a conversation with them and try to arrive at a solution that works for everyone.    

Sometimes, in mid-life, we may feel like the meat in the sandwich. On the one hand we have teenage or young adult children who still need our support and, at the same time, we have aging parents who may also need some help.

To make things more difficult we often don’t live in the same city. It’s a lot harder to help family from a distance. Sometimes life’s circumstances force you to make a difficult choice. At the end of the day you can only do what is in your power to do.

When Jesus was hanging on the cross, about to die, his options were limited. His earthly father Joseph was dead. He was the eldest son. How would he honour his mother in that most difficult of all situations? One of the last things Jesus did was entrust his mother’s care to his best friend. In John 19 we read…   

26 When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to her, “Woman,here is your son,” 27 and to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” From that time on, this disciple took her into his home.

It wasn’t in Jesus’ power to look after Mary himself, so he delegated her care to someone he trusted implicitly.

Honouring our parents is about doing the best we can for them under the circumstances. Sometimes that might mean inviting them to live with us, in our home. Other times it will mean supporting them to live in their own home. Or, if they need a high level of support, it could mean visiting them regularly in an aged care facility. What is the best you can do by your parents?  

Thinking of difficult choices, how do you honour both parents when they are separated or divorced? How do share yourself around at Christmas? How do you navigate special occasions? How do provide care and support when your mum & dad won’t even talk to each other let alone live under the same roof?

How do you honour both parents if you are in a conversation with one parent who is saying not very nice things about the other?

Don’t buy into their narrative. Ask God to help you write a better narrative. Don’t submit to false guilt. You are not responsible for the choices your parents have made. At the end of the day you can only do what is in your power to do. You can’t be in two places at once. You can’t keep everyone happy all the time.

Do the best you can to honour both parents but make sure you leave room to honour yourself as well. Make sure you give yourself space to breathe.   

Some wounds are slow to heal. What do you do if your parents have hurt you? Perhaps your mum or dad were incompetent as parents. Maybe they were absent or neglectful or even abusive. Do you still need to honour them? The short answer is yes, but what that looks like might be different depending on the situation.

As Christians we are guided by the Spirit of Jesus, a Spirit of grace & truth. The truth is, no parent and no child is perfect so we need to have some measure of grace and not sweat the small stuff.

God is able to use the imperfection of your family for good. In fact, having a perfect upbringing isn’t that helpful in this life because it doesn’t prepare you for the world. The world we live in is not perfect. The world is not always easy or kind. Learning to relate with challenging people is a useful skill.

That being said, even grace has its limits. In extreme situations, where a parent has done serious harm and can no longer be trusted, it may be necessary to cut the relationship off for your own survival. This should not be done cynically or lightly. This is a weighty matter that requires deep wrestling in prayer.

In a situation like that, honour may take the form of asking God to forgive your parents so that you can both move on without doing further harm. Honour may also mean breaking the cycle of violence and getting help for yourself in order to learn a better way of relating to your own kids.    

Conclusion:

Remember, honour is about doing the right thing, the good thing, by your mum and dad. In the normal course of events, honour means being committed to make the relationship work well. And that involves staying in touch regularly.

It is significant that the last verse in the Old Testament speaks of God sending his prophet to restore the relationship between parents and children. Let it be the last word of this sermon too. From Malachi chapter 4 we read…

5 “See, I will send the prophet Elijah to you before that great and dreadful day of the Lord comes. 6 He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents;

Questions for discussion or reflection:

What stands out for you in reading this Scripture and/or in listening to the sermon? Why do you think this stood out to you?

  • What does honour mean to you? What does honour (kabbed) mean in the context of Deuteronomy 5? Can you think of any examples of children honouring their parents in the Bible?
  • Why should we honour our parents?
  • How do you honour your parents and grandparents? What is the best you can do for your parents?
  • When must we obey our parents? When is it okay to not do what our parents ask?
  • How might someone honour a parent who has hurt them? 
  • What were/are your parents like? Can you think of something they did for you, when you were young, that was really helpful? If they are still alive could you ring them and thank them? If you can’t ring them, thank God for the good they did. 

[1] Refer Patrick Miller’s commentary on Deuteronomy, page 84. 

[2] Refer John Stott’s commentary on Ephesians, page 241.

Tawa Baptist

Respectful Relationships

Scripture: John 4:5-26

Video Link: https://youtu.be/E2XyyjXWG1M

Structure:

  • Introduction
  • Value not violence
  • Equality not entitlement
  • Honesty not humiliation
  • Conclusion

Introduction:

Good morning everyone.

Over the past couple of weeks, we have been taking a closer look at some of the values of NZBMS, our Baptist Missionary Society. First we considered the core value of mutual humility, then last week the value of listening. Today we conclude the Renew Together campaign by exploring the value of respectful relationships.

Jesus modelled respectful relationships for us during his earthly ministry. With this in mind, the people at NZBMS have chosen the story of Jesus’ conversation with the Samaritan woman at the well, to help illustrate what a respectful relationship looks like. 

As I read John 4 I noticed three things in this regard. Respectful relationships are characterised by value not violence, by equality not entitlement and by honesty not humiliation. From John chapter 4, verse 4, we read…

4 Now he [Jesus] had to go through Samaria. 5 So he came to a town in Samaria called Sychar, near the plot of ground Jacob had given to his son Joseph.  6 Jacob’s well was there, and Jesus, tired as he was from the journey, sat down by the well. It was about noon. 7 When a Samaritan woman came to draw water, Jesus said to her, “Will you give me a drink?” 8 (His disciples had gone into the town to buy food.) 9 The Samaritan woman said to him, “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?” (For Jews do not associate with Samaritans.)

May the Spirit of Jesus illuminate God’s word for us.

Value is at the heart of respect. Human beings are intrinsically valuable because God made us in his image. Each one of us is unique, one of a kind. Our lives are precious. Sadly, we have a tendency to forget both the value of others and our own value.

The Jews and Samaritans forgot. There was a terrible history between them. Violence, grudges and abuse were common between the two ethnicities. Around 722 BC the Assyrians invaded northern Israel and deported thousands of Jews, replacing them with settlers from Babylon, Syria and other nations.

These foreigners introduced pagan gods and intermarried with the Jewish people who remained. Their descendants became known as Samaritans. The southern Jews (the people of Judah) felt that the northern tribes had compromised their faith and their covenant with Yahweh and they hated the Samaritans for it.

In 128 BC the Jews destroyed the Samaritan temple on Mount Gerizim. Just over a century later, when Jesus was a toddler, a group of Samaritans dug up some Jewish bones, broke into the Jerusalem temple and scattered the bones in the holy of holies. In retaliation, the Jewish leaders enlisted the Romans to massacre Samaritans on Mount Gerizim.

In John 4, Jesus decided to leave Judea (in the south) and head home to Galilee (in the north). Rather than follow the normal Jewish route, which went out of the way to avoid Samaritan territory, Jesus took a more direct path through the heart of Samaria.

As he was waiting by a well outside the town of Sychar, a Samaritan woman came out to draw water from the well. It was pretty clear that something was amiss.

Normally women came out together (in groups) at the beginning and end of the day to avoid the heat. But this woman was on her own in the middle of the day. She was a social outcast. Nigella no mates. 

Jesus was thirsty and so he asked the woman for a drink. Jesus’ physical thirst here seems to mirror the woman’s spiritual thirst.

Now, to pretty much anyone of that time and culture, Jesus’ request would have seemed to be anything but respectful. The cultural expectation of that time was for Jesus to keep a reasonable distance and ignore the woman. Men were not supposed to talk to women they didn’t know and Jews were not supposed to interact with Samaritans. That was like consorting with the enemy.

Jesus knows this of course, but he is not satisfied with the status quo. Centuries of prejudice and violence has not worked and if what you are doing isn’t working, then more of the same isn’t going to help.

So Jesus tries something different. Jesus starts a conversation with this woman and in the process he shows us what a respectful relationship looks like. Jesus is physically thirsty and the woman is spiritually thirsty, so their mutual thirst provides some common ground for Jesus to start a conversation. 

Now, when we talk about having a conversation in the context of respectful relationships, we need to be clear about what we mean. To build and maintain respectful relationships the conversation needs to be non-violent.

Violence isn’t just physical; it can be verbal as well. People can say things that are unkind or untrue, they can make threats or use an angry tone in an attempt to try and gain control over the other person through fear.

We notice that Jesus does not use violence or intimidation in his conversation. To the contrary, Jesus makes himself vulnerable. By asking the woman for help, Jesus gives the woman a free choice, he gives her power and control in the situation.

She can choose to ignore him or she can choose to help him. If she helps him, Jesus will be in her debt. If she doesn’t help him, she can feel like she did not betray her own people by helping a Jew. Either way she wins.

The woman keeps her options open. She doesn’t give Jesus a drink but she doesn’t ignore him either. Clearly, she is not afraid of Jesus. She hasn’t run away, nor has she felt pressured to do what Jesus said. She is curious and enters into this conversation to find out more.

Understandably, she comes across as a bit defensive, pointing out the obvious differences between them. You are a Jewish man and I am a Samaritan woman. Aren’t you breaking an unspoken code here?

Equality, not entitlement:

10 Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.” 11 “Sir,” the woman said, “you have nothing to draw with and the well is deep. Where can you get this living water?

The woman still hasn’t given Jesus that drink he asked for, but Jesus does not press his request. There is no male privilege, no sense of entitlement from Jesus. He respects her decision and continues to treat the woman as an equal.

Equality, not entitlement, is one of the characteristics of a respectful relationship. Equality is about being fair and even handed in our dealings with others. Not thinking too highly of ourselves in relation to others. But at the same time not thinking too little of ourselves either.

Equality keeps the door open for people to redeem themselves when they mess up, because we all mess up at some point. We all need a second chance. Jesus held the door of equality open for this woman when no one else would.  

The ‘living water’ Jesus mentions is likely the Holy Spirit. Jesus is speaking in metaphors but the woman takes him literally. In verse 12 she tests Jesus by asking…

12 Are you greater than our father Jacob, who gave us the well and drank from it himself, as did also his sons and his livestock?”

We see a little bit of a power play from the woman here. It’s like she is goading Jesus with an insult. A Samaritan woman naming Jacob as their common ancestor would probably aggravate most Jews who considered both Samaritans and women inferior and not worthy of claiming God’s promises through Jacob.

Jesus doesn’t take offence at her comment though. He keeps the door of the conversation open. Jesus doesn’t see any shame in being associated with a Samaritan woman. Jesus treats this woman with fairness, saying...

 13 “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, 14 but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”

That term, eternal life, needs some explanation. Most people, when they hear the phrase, ‘eternal life’, think in terms of time. They think immortality, eternity, life that goes on and on and on forever without end. 

But in the gospel of John eternal life is primarily a reference to a quality relationship with God. A relationship characterised by friendship and intimacy with God. Eternal life is abundant life, life with joy and meaning. Life that we don’t ever want to end.

The opposite of eternal life is loneliness, isolation, alienation, the hell of not being able to trust anyone. By offering this woman the gift of eternal life, Jesus is putting his finger on the deepest longing of this woman’s heart. She has no friends, no intimacy. She is an outcast, treated as unequal, at the bottom of the heap.

Jesus does not force the gift of living water on her, as if he is entitled to decide what is best for her. He holds the door of eternal life open for her. She is free to walk through or not.  

Honesty, not humiliation:

15 The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water so that I won’t get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water.”

It seems she still doesn’t get Jesus’ meaning. She is still thinking literally. Either that, or she is being sarcastic and playing games. Either way, Jesus is determined to keep the relationship respectful. And a respectful relationship is an honest relationship. Things are about to get real…

16 He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.” 17 “I have no husband,” she replied. Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. 18 The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.”

We are not told the back story with these six relationships but it is pretty clear this woman has been through the mill. Whether she is a widow or a divorcee or an adulterer or all three, she is first and foremost a person and she has suffered. Jesus sees her loneliness and thirst and he cares for her. That care includes facing the facts honestly and with grace.   

Honesty is essential to respectful relationships. Honesty is the oxygen of trust. Honesty enables the relationship to breathe. However, our honesty must always be mixed with grace. Pure oxygen will kill you. Honesty is not a license to be cruel or malicious. If our motivation in being honest is to humiliate the other person then we will only end up suffocating trust.

Jesus does not call out the woman’s chequered past to humiliate her. Jesus is seeking to build trust by being honest about himself. Jesus is a prophet but the woman does not yet realise this. If Jesus doesn’t reveal who he is soon, the woman may feel blindsided later. Honesty enables the relationship to breathe.  

Joy Oladokun has a song called Breathe Again. The chorus goes like this…

Am I looking for revival? Am I dressed in others’ sin?

Hold my breath until I’m honest, will I ever breathe again?

Jesus was dressed in others’ sin. He took the blame for things that were not his fault. He was unfairly treated and prejudged. When people need somewhere to put their anger, they often dump it on God. 

This song also reminds me of the Samaritan woman. She may not be perfect but nor can she wear the blame for five husbands by herself. She is, to some extent, like Jesus; dressed in others’ sin.

Her relationship status on Facebook would read, “It’s complicated”. It is difficult for a woman in her position to be honest. When we can’t be honest it’s like we can’t breathe, it creates a pressure in us (like anxiety). And if you can’t be honest, then you can’t be yourself. And if you can’t be yourself, then how can you be in a respectful relationship?

By disclosing that he knew her past, Jesus actually released the woman. Now she was free to be herself with him at least. She didn’t need to pretend. She could be honest at last. She could breathe again.

But honesty is not without risk. Jesus’ insight is cutting a bit close to the bone. The woman doesn’t want to talk about her failed relationships and changes the subject to religion and politics, because for some strange reason that feels safer.

19 “Sir, I can see that you are a prophet. 20 Our ancestors worshiped on this mountain, but you Jews claim that the place where we must worship is in Jerusalem.”

We New Zealanders don’t like to talk about religion and politics. A respectful relationship for us is one in which conversations about God and government are put aside in favour of talking about the weather and the rugby. But to not talk about what we believe is to not be entirely honest.

Jesus respects the woman’s wish to not talk about her failed marriages but he is still honest in saying what he believes about God…

21 “Woman,” Jesus replied, “believe me, a time is coming when you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem. 22 You Samaritans worship what you do not know; we worship what we do know, for salvation is from the Jews.  23 Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in the Spirit and in truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. 24 God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in the Spirit and in truth.”

In these verses Jesus is talking about worship and what a respectful relationship with God looks like. With the coming of Jesus, the centuries old feud between Jews and Samaritans over where God should be worshipped is a moot point. It is no longer relevant. All that bloodshed and animosity between the two ethnic groups was pointless.

Jesus replaces the temple building. Through faith in Jesus, God can be worshipped anywhere. What matters now is not where God is worshipped but the Spirit in which God is worshipped. 

25 The woman said, “I know that Messiah” (called Christ) “is coming. When he comes, he will explain everything to us.”

26 Then Jesus declared, “I, the one speaking to you—I am he.”

Elsewhere in the gospels, Jesus is pretty guarded about his identity. He reveals who he is to his disciples but he doesn’t put himself out there with the crowds or the religious leaders.

Jesus’ honesty in disclosing that he is the Messiah, shows tremendous respect for the Samaritan woman. And the woman does not disappoint Jesus’ trust. She shows him the respect of believing in him and sharing the good news with her neighbours.

Jesus accepts the Samaritans’ offer of hospitality without anxiety of being contaminated by their Samaritan-ness. God looks at the heart, not the outward appearance.

Conclusion:

Respectful relationships are characterised by value not violence, by equality not entitlement and by honesty not humiliation.  So how does this relate to us today?

Well, with so much blood being spilled in the name of God and religion, respectful relationships are needed more than ever between people of different faiths.

In about 30-40 years’ time it is predicted that 64% of the world’s population will be either Christian or Muslim. That means the way Christians and Muslims relate with each is going to have a significant impact on the world. You don’t want two thirds of the world at each other’s throats.

Maintaining respectful relationships with those who are different from us is essential to gospel renewal.

Thinking of your own personal relationships…

Who is it you often find yourself at odds with?

Maybe someone at work or school?

Maybe someone at home or church?

How might that relationship become more respectful?

Now, after hearing how Jesus built a respectful relationship with the Samaritan woman you might think, ‘That’s what I need to do too’. I need to be like Jesus. I need to make myself vulnerable, try and find some common ground, start a conversation, be honest and so on.

Well, maybe. But you also need to exercise wisdom. You can only build a respectful relationship with someone who is willing to be respectful in return. As I said at the beginning, a respectful conversation is a non-violent conversation.  

If the person you are at odds with is abusive, with no interest in a respectful relationship, then making yourself vulnerable with them probably isn’t a smart move. You have to have some respect for yourself as well.

Like Jesus said, “Don’t throw your pearls before swine”. In other words, be discerning. Jesus didn’t tell everyone he was the Messiah. He wasn’t vulnerable with every person he met.

But Jesus did see the value in others and he resisted the urge to violence.

Jesus was fair, he treated people with equality.

And Jesus was always honest, finding that perfect mix of grace & truth.

With the help of Jesus’ Spirit, we can aim for that as well.     

Grace and peace to you on the journey.

Questions for discussion or reflection:

What stands out for you in reading this Scripture and/or in listening to the sermon? Why do you think this stood out to you?

  • Why is respect important in relationships?
  • What is respect? The sermon mentions three characteristics of respectful relationships (i.e. value, equality and honesty). Can you think of any other characteristics?
  • What makes a person valuable? How might we value others?
  • What do we mean by equality? Can you think of an example of equality in your own experience? 
  • Why did Jesus disclose to the woman that he knew about her past? Why do we need to be honest in our relationships with others? What does honesty do?
  • Are your relationships respectful? If not, what needs to change for them to become more respectful? Ask Jesus’ help and guidance with this.  
Tawa Baptist

Whakarongo

Scripture: Isaiah 43:16-21

Video Link: https://youtu.be/7473HF-pZf4

Structure:

  • Introduction
  • Don’t be blinded by the past
  • Be open to the future
  • Conclusion

Introduction:

Good morning everyone.

If I say to you, ‘whakarongo mai’, what am I asking you to do? [Wait]

That’s right, I’m asking you to ‘listen here’ or ‘listen to me’.

We are currently in the middle of the New Zealand Baptist Missionary Society’s Renew Together campaign. ‘Renew Together’ is the new name for Self Denial.

The purpose of the Renew Together campaign is to raise awareness of and funds for the work of NZBMS. For three Sundays we are using the sermon time to focus on some of the core values of NZBMS. Last week we explored the value of mutual humility. Today we consider the value of whakarongo or listening.

In a deeper sense the word whakarongo means more than just listening physically with our ears. It refers to feeling, sensing and perceiving.

Spiritually speaking, things happen when we listen to and obey God’s word. This idea of listening to God and following his voice, comes up time and time again in the Bible. The focus of our message today is Isaiah 43:16-21. Isaiah was an Old Testament prophet. From verse 16 we read…   

16 This is what the Lord says—he who made a way through the sea, a path through the mighty waters, 17 who drew out the chariots and horses, the army and reinforcements together, and they lay there, never to rise again, extinguished, snuffed out like a wick: 18 “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. 19 See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.

20 The wild animals honour me, the jackals and the owls, because I provide water in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland, to give drink to my people, my chosen, 21 the people I formed for myself that they may proclaim my praise.

May the Spirit of Jesus illuminate God’s word for us.

In a nutshell, today’s reading is saying: Don’t be blinded by the past, be open to the future. This, of course, requires us to listen to God.

Don’t be blinded by the past:

Alexander Graham Bell was a scientist, an engineer and an inventor. He is probably most famous for inventing the telephone. Alexander Bell became interested in the science of sound because both his mother and his wife were deaf. He himself was a teacher of the deaf.

It was his experiments in sound that led to the invention of the telephone. While the first telephone wasn’t all that useful to the deaf, later developments in phone technology, like texting, have made communication by phone accessible to the deaf community.  

Alexander Bell came up with a listening device that, for centuries before him, no one had perceived would be possible. He wasn’t blinded by the past. He was open to the future and to new possibilities.

It was Alexander Bell who gave us the wisdom of this saying: Sometimes we stare so long at the door that is closing that we see too late the one that is open.

In other words, don’t be blinded by the past, be open to the future.

Returning to today’s Scripture. In 586 BC the city of Jerusalem was conquered by the Babylonians and the survivors (from the tribe of Judah) were forced into exile in Babylon.

The challenge for the Jewish exiles was to maintain their identity as God’s chosen people while living in a foreign land. Remembering the stories of their past (how God had delivered them from slavery in Egypt) was one of the ways the people in captivity maintained their identity. The old familiar stories also had a soothing affect, they were a comfort, like a security blanket.

Second Isaiah (which includes chapter 43) was written for the Jewish exiles in Babylon. So it comes as a surprise when the prophet says in verse 18…

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.”

This is especially jarring because recalling the past is exactly what Isaiah has just been doing. In verses 16-17 the prophet makes a clear reference to the first exodus, when Yahweh led the people of Israel out of slavery in Egypt.

So what’s going on here? Well, it is probably a rhetorical device designed to get people’s attention. Isaiah moves from the familiar to the unfamiliar. It’s a poetic way of saying, ‘whakarongo mai’ – listen carefully here.

More than just getting people’s attention though, Isaiah was probably aware that dwelling on the past was holding people back.

The past can become an idealised world into which we retreat when the future becomes too frightening to face. The Jewish exiles were at risk of looking so long at a door that had closed that they would miss the new door God was opening.

Israel’s attachment to nostalgia threatened to blind them to new possibilities and prevent them from moving forward. Isaiah does not want Israel to retreat into the past. He does want them to remember God’s power and faithfulness though.

Not dwelling too long on the past isn’t just a warning against a retreat from present realities. It may also mean, don’t spend all your time thinking about what they did to you and how they hurt you all those years ago.

There is a time and place for lament but once you have got it out of your system, once you have expressed your grief, don’t wallow in self-pity and resentment. Keep pressing on.

Perhaps too, forgetting the former things carries the meaning of forgiving yourself, not condemning yourself for your past mistakes. Israel went into exile because of their disloyalty and their injustice. Fifty years is a long time to be in exile, a long time to live with regret.

The people were going to need all their energy for what God was planning to do next. They could not afford to carry their past mistakes with them.    

What is it that holds you back?

What things from the past do you need to spend less time dwelling on?

Do you look at the good old days through rose tinted glasses?

Do you spend too much time retreating to the past?

Do you hold onto hurts and the cruel things people have said to you?

Do you need to grieve that hurt, let it go and move on?

Do you dwell too long on your own mistakes, never quite able to atone for your failure?  Do you need to trust yourself to God’s grace and be on your own side?

Don’t be blinded by the past, be open to the future.

Be open to the future:

In verse 19 the Lord says: See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?

This is a call to whakarongo, to listen to the Lord. To try and perceive the new thing God is doing. To be open to the future.

After some decades the Babylonian empire was conquered by the Medes who took a different approach. In 538 BC (around 50 years after the fall of Jerusalem) King Cyrus released the Jewish exiles, allowing them to return to their homeland to rebuild the Jerusalem temple.

This was different. This was not like when their ancestors were slaves in Egypt and Pharaoh became stubborn, refusing to let the people go. Unlike Pharaoh, King Cyrus acted as the servant of the Lord, sending the Jews off with his blessing. The Jews did not need to fight the Medes and Persians.

There was, however, some similarity with the past. The returning exiles had to make an epic journey through the wilderness. Unlike the first exodus though, it didn’t take 40 years. Probably more like 4-6 months, depending on the route they travelled. 

Even so, it would not have been easy. The Jewish exiles had become quite settled in Babylon. Those young enough to make the journey would have been born in exile and wouldn’t know anything of their homeland.

The prospect of picking up sticks to resettle in Palestine would be quite daunting. They were returning to ruins. They would have to rebuild from scratch. They needed reassurance and encouragement and so the Lord says in verse 19…

I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.

This verse can be taken both literally and metaphorically. God was literally making a way in the wilderness for the exiles to return home from Babylon. God was promising to provide all the people needed to rebuild a new life in Jerusalem.  

At the same time this verse stands as a metaphor for the exiles and for us. Sometimes in life we are faced with trials and difficulties. Not just a bad day, but a prolonged period of hardship. We call this a wilderness experience.

A wilderness experience is not something we can avoid. It is something we have to go through. To go through the wilderness is to be vulnerable. When we are in the wilderness we are conscious of just how small and powerless we really are. The wilderness can be as deadly as it is beautiful.

Wilderness experiences come in many forms. For example, a battle with cancer or a war with depression. Going through a divorce can be a wilderness experience. Being made redundant after years of service and wondering what the point of your life is. Losing a child or a spouse or a parent. Losing your home and becoming a refugee, being forced to flee to another country and start again. Facing a crisis of faith is also a wilderness experience.

I could go on but you get the idea. The wilderness is not an easy or comfortable place to be and it is hardly ever a place you choose to be. The wilderness tests you beyond what you thought were your limits.

When you are in the wilderness you cannot afford to be blinded by the past. You have to listen, you have to be present, you have to be aware of your environment. You use all your senses just to survive. The wilderness shows you what you are made of and it throws you on the mercy of God.

At some point in your wilderness experience you will think to yourself, “I don’t think I can carry on. I can’t see a way forward. I don’t know how I’m going to get out of this situation.”  And yet, somehow, God makes a way for you.

After you have passed through the wilderness you may feel like a part of you died there but you are not sorry for that. You see that it made room for something new to grow. Now you carry a piece of the wilderness in you. You are not necessarily stronger. You may even walk with a limp because of your experience. But you are freer somehow.     

Have you been through the wilderness? Perhaps you are in the wilderness right now? Let me say to you: The Lord is at home in the wilderness. And that is good news because it means he can make a way for you when you cannot see a way for yourself. He is the ‘way maker’.

But here’s the thing; the way God makes for us is not the same every time. When Job was in the wilderness of unjust suffering, God met him in a hurricane, a storm. But when Moses was in the wilderness of obscurity, Yahweh met Israel’s great leader in a burning bush.

When Jacob was in the wilderness (on the run from his brother Esau), God gave him a vision of a ladder from heaven to earth with angels ascending and descending, and this vision opened the way for Jacob to move forward into the unknown. But when Elijah was in the wilderness at Mount Horeb (aka Mount Sinai) the Lord came to him not in a vision and not in the earthquake, wind or fire, but in a gentle whisper, that still small voice.

When Mary & Martha were in the wilderness of grief after their brother Lazarus had died, the Lord came in tears, Jesus wept. Then he raised Lazarus from the dead. That was new. That opened the way for many to believe.

The idea of God making a way in the wilderness continues in verses 20 & 21 of Isaiah 43, where the Lord says…

20 The wild animals honour me, the jackals and the owls, because I provide water in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland, to give drink to my people, my chosen, 21 the people I formed for myself that they may proclaim my praise.

Previously in the book of Isaiah (in chapter 34) we read how the jackals and owls (unclean animals) prowl among the ruins. They were associated with God’s judgement and with chaos. Now (in chapter 43) Isaiah reintroduces the jackals and owls, not as prowlers, but this time as giving honour to God. [1]

The image here is one of restoration. God is going to transform the wasteland and the ruins into a place of new life and refreshment. And God’s people (the returning exiles) will be witnesses to this, proclaiming God’s praise for the way of salvation he has made.

The message is one of hope. The very things we dread, the wilderness and wasteland, are often the very things God uses for our salvation. We see the way of God’s salvation fulfilled in the life, death and resurrection of Jesus. God used the cross, an instrument of cruelty, judgement and shame, as the instrument of forgiveness, reconciliation and new life, through faith in Jesus.

Conclusion:

For some time now the church in the west has been going into exile. The gap between church and society has been growing. Society is going its own way and the church appears to be in decline. Some might say the church is finding itself in the wilderness.

We might feel tempted to retreat into the past, to dwell on the good old days. But we must not be blinded by the past. We must remain open to the future. We do well to remember, the good old days were not always that good. Truth be told, they were a mixed bag.

It also helps to look outward. As we heard last week, the church in places like Africa and Asia is thriving. God is always at work, doing a new thing.

This does not mean God has forgotten us here in the west. But it does mean we have to be alert. We have to whakarongo (to listen) to God. We have to use all our senses to try and perceive what God is doing.

We might not be able to see a clear way forward but God is the way maker. He can create a highway in the desert and streams of new life in the wilderness.

Let us pray…

Jesus, you are the way, the truth and the life. You have walked the wilderness and made a way through. We face uncertain times. May we not retreat into the past for fear of the future. Rather, may we be open to the way forward you have created. Help us to hear what you are saying to the church and give us courage to obey your call. Amen.  

Questions for discussion or reflection:

What stands out for you in reading this Scripture and/or in listening to the sermon? Why do you think this stood out to you?

  • What are verses 16-17 referring to? Why would this be a comfort to the Jewish exiles in Babylon?
  • Why does the Lord say (in verse 18), “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.”? What does he mean?
  • What is it that holds you back? What things from the past do you need to spend less time dwelling on?
  • Have you had a wilderness experience? What happened? How did God make a way through for you? Did the wilderness change you? If so, how?
  • In what ways is Isaiah 43:16-21 relevant for the church in the west today?  What can we do to stay alert and listen to God? How might we perceive the new thing God is doing?

[1] Refer Paul Hanson’s Interpretation commentary on Isaiah.

Tawa Baptist

Mutual Humility

Scripture: Matthew 13:3-9 & 18-23

Video Link: https://youtu.be/iKs8MSu63cU

Structure:

  • Introduction
  • The seed of God’s word
  • The soil of our lives
  • Conclusion

Introduction:

Good morning everyone.

Can anyone tell me what the letters NZBMS stand for? [Wait]

That’s right, New Zealand Baptist Missionary Society. NZBMS is the overseas missions arm of our Baptist movement.

Today (and for the next two Sundays) we take a break from our series in Deuteronomy to focus on the New Zealand Baptist Missionary Society’s Renew Together campaign. ‘Renew Together’ is the new name for Self Denial.

The purpose of the Renew Together campaign is to raise awareness of and funds for the work of NZBMS. For three Sundays we will use the sermon time to focus on some of the core values of NZBMS. The first value is mutual humility. 

Listening is key to humility. To aid our understanding of mutual humility, let’s listen to Jesus’ parable of the sower in Matthew 13. This is a parable about God’s kingdom.  From verse 3 of Matthew 13, we read…

3 Then he told them many things in parables, saying: “A farmer went out to sow his seed. 4 As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up. 5 Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow. 6 But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root. 7 Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants. 8 Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop—a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown. 9 Whoever has ears, let them hear.”

18 “Listen then to what the parable of the sower means: 19 When anyone hears the message about the kingdom and does not understand it, the evil one comes and snatches away what was sown in their heart. This is the seed sown along the path. 20 The seed falling on rocky ground refers to someone who hears the word and at once receives it with joy. 21 But since they have no root, they last only a short time. When trouble or persecution comes because of the word, they quickly fall away.  22 The seed falling among the thorns refers to someone who hears the word, but the worries of this life and the deceitfulness of wealth choke the word, making it unfruitful. 23 But the seed falling on good soil refers to someone who hears the word and understands it. This is the one who produces a crop, yielding a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown.”

May the Spirit of Jesus illuminate God’s word for us.

A parable is a story which teaches a spiritual truth. A parable uses something known and familiar to teach something unknown or unfamiliar. In this case, Jesus uses the familiar image of a farmer sowing seed to teach us about the kingdom of God which is unfamiliar to us. 

There are two parts to today’s message. The first part deals with the seed of God’s word and the second part looks at the soil of our lives. When you put the seed of God’s word together with the good soil of our lives, the Holy Spirit works to produce the crop of God’s kingdom.  

The seed of God’s word:

God’s kingdom is not the same as the kingdoms or governments of this world. Broadly speaking we might think of the kingdoms of this world on a spectrum, with democratic government at one end and dictatorships at the other. 

With dictatorships, one person makes governing decisions that affect everyone. The will of the one is forced on the many, whether people like it not.

With democracy, the majority rule. This means the will of the majority is forced on the minority, although the minority still have a voice and can protest if they wish. This is an over simplification but you get the general idea. 

Neither of these forms of government are perfect but people in the west, at least, generally prefer a democratic form of government.     

God’s kingdom is not on this spectrum. God’s kingdom is not like the kingdoms of this world. God’s kingdom is in a category all of its own. We find it hard to imagine God’s kingdom because it is so profoundly different from what we know and are familiar with.

When we consider the parable of the sower we see that God’s kingdom is organic. God does not force his kingdom on us. There is no coercion with God’s kingdom, no military conquest, no emotional manipulation, no media spin, no political manoeuvring.

God approaches humankind humbly, in the form of a man (Jesus), who speaks God’s word and embodies God’s word. Jesus is both the sower of the seed of God’s word and the seed itself.   

A seed is a small thing, a humble thing. Likewise, the seed of God’s word appears quite unimpressive and easy to miss at first. A seed enters the ground quietly, gradually, gently. In fact, the seed won’t enter the soil unless the ground is open to receive it. 

But the soil needs the seed. Once the seed germinates and takes root it transforms the soil for good. Without the seed, the soil would erode and the land would turn into a desert. Likewise, without the seed of God’s word, the soil of our lives is at risk of being blown away. God’s word gives our lives coherence, meaning and abundance.

In verse 9, after giving the parable, Jesus says: 9 Whoever has ears, let them hear. And in verse 18, before explaining the parable, Jesus says: 18 Listen then to what the parable of the sower means…

If God’s word is the seed and our lives are the soil, then hearing or listening is how we receive God’s word. True listening, listening with openness and a genuine desire to understand, is a sign of humility.

When we think of overseas mission we may have a picture of a European going to Africa or Asia or South America to tell the indigenous people there about the gospel of Jesus. Sort of like they are the ones in need and we have the solution.

But the landscape of the world has changed dramatically in recent years. The movement of mission is no longer ‘from the west to the rest’. Now mission is from everywhere to everywhere. Thousands of missionaries are being sent from places like Latin America, Africa, South Korea and the Philippines.

The church may be in decline in the west but it is growing in other parts of the world. Those in the global south and east are moving to evangelise the post-Christian west.

We, in the west, need to have the humility to acknowledge that we don’t have all the answers and to listen. It’s not that we have nothing to offer. Rather, we need to think of mission in terms of partnership and service.

Brian Smith, a former Principal of Carey Baptist College, was sent to Asia as a missionary many years ago. When he first got there he spent time simply listening to the locals. It was only after many months of listening that Brian began a translation of the New Testament into the local language.

When it comes to mission (whether that’s local mission or overseas mission) we need to be listening to what God is saying to us and we need to be listening to the society we live in as well. God is already at work in our land and in the lives of people who do not yet know him. So the question is, how do we join God in his work?

God’s kingdom comes on earth when the seed of God’s word is planted in the good soil of people’s lives. So what does Jesus say about the soil?

The soil of our lives:

Jesus’ parables function as a mirror. They show us what we are truly like. Having an accurate self-awareness, facing ourselves as we really are, is at the heart of true humility. In Matthew 13, Jesus describes four different types of soil. These soil types show us a mirror. They humble us.    

The four types of soil illustrate four responses to the gospel message or the seed of God’s word. The first three soils shine a light on why the kingdom of God doesn’t bear fruit in a person’s life. They equate to having a hard heart, a shallow commitment and divided attention.  

In the time of Jesus, when farmers scattered seed by hand, some of the seed would inevitably land on the path. The path was hard packed ground from having been walked over so much. The seed could not penetrate the path.

Some people are hard hearted when it comes to the gospel message. They refuse to understand. They either can’t or won’t let God’s word penetrate into their life.

People can be hard hearted for a variety of reasons. Sometimes it is because they have been hurt in the past or had too many people trample through their heart. As a consequence, they don’t want to let anyone or anything else in. It’s a self-protection thing.  

Other times though a hard heart is more the product of arrogance or prejudice. Like when a person thinks they know best and are not prepared to give God’s word a fair hearing.

Ironically, many of the Pharisees and religious leaders of Jesus’ time give us a picture of the hard hearted. They heard Jesus’ message but it bounced off. In their pride and prejudice, they refused to believe what Jesus was saying and so the seed of God’s word did not take root in the soil of their lives.

The hard heart needs softening if it is to receive the seed of God’s word. How exactly God may soften a person’s heart depends very much on the individual person and the reason for their hardness.

If someone has been hardened by a tough upbringing or through rough or unfair treatment, then they probably need to be shown kindness and grace. Like the priest did for Jean Val Jean in Victor Hugo’s story, Les Miserable. When Jean Val Jean stole the silver, the old priest gave him the candle stick too and that softened Jean Val Jean’s heart so the seed of the gospel could find a way in.

But if someone’s hardness of heart is due to their own pride or prejudice, then it may be necessary for God to challenge their prejudice and undo their pride. Nothing removes the stain of prejudice like walking in the shoes of the person you had prejudged. And nothing undoes pride like weakness and failure.  

At the height of his power and success, we read how king Nebuchadnezzar’s ‘heart became arrogant and hardened with pride’. As a consequence, 21 He was driven away from people and given the mind of an animal; he lived with the wild donkeys and ate grass like the ox; and his body was drenched with the dew of heaven, until he acknowledged that the Most High God is sovereign over all kingdoms on earth and sets over them anyone he wishes. [1]

God undid Nebuchadnezzar’s pride and softened his heart through weakness and failure.  

Perhaps the most pleasant way God softens the human heart though is through the presence of children. There is something about small children which makes us want to be better.

The second soil type relates to the seed that fell on rocky ground. These people respond enthusiastically to the gospel message at first. They listen to it with an open mind, they believe and receive it with joy but their roots don’t go down very deep. Then, when trouble or persecution comes, they fall away.  The roots of their commitment are shallow.

Near the beginning of Jesus’ ministry, people flocked to see the Lord. He was popular with the crowds because of his teaching and his miracles. Many of those same people would later turn on Jesus at the end of his ministry, calling for his crucifixion.

They had false expectations. They believed in a kind of prosperity gospel. They thought following Jesus would make their life easier, giving them wealth, health and victory over the Romans. But Jesus did not promise that. Jesus was very clear that identifying with him would bring suffering in this life and glory in the next. 

The only way to deepen commitment to Jesus is by sticking with Jesus.

Coming to faith in Jesus is a little bit like falling in love. At first you have this idealised picture of the one you love. You see only what you want to see, the good stuff. They can do no wrong. The feeling is wonderful and you think it will last.

But then, when some of your expectations are not met, the feeling wears off and you go through a stage of disenchantment or disorientation. It might feel like God is distant and you start to question much of what you believed to be true.

This process of questioning our faith needs to happen if we are to grow. Some of the beliefs and consequent expectations we adopted when we first received Christ may be false and need to be put aside. While other beliefs need to be refined and held on to.

The temptation at this stage is to give up on Jesus altogether, but that won’t help you in the long run. In this process of editing our faith (discerning what is true and what is false) we need to be careful not to throw the baby out with the bath water. When we hold to Christ and his resurrection we come to realise these three remain: faith, hope & love.

The first impediment to God’s kingdom growing in the soil of our lives is a hard heart. The second impediment is shallow commitment and the third impediment is divided attention. 

In verse 22 Jesus explains…

22 The seed falling among the thorns refers to someone who hears the word, but the worries of this life and the deceitfulness of wealth choke the word, making it unfruitful.

These people have received the seed of God’s word into the soil of their lives. They have maintained their commitment to Christ but their attention is divided. They (or perhaps I could say ‘we’) are distracted and our energy is syphoned off by worry over material things. 

C.S. Lewis said, “If Satan can’t make you sin, he will make you busy”.

The thing about thorns is that we don’t go out of our way to choose them. Worry about how we are going to make a living and the fruitless busy-ness this creates, spring up by themselves. To get rid of these thorns we have to be quite intentional and careful, so we don’t cut ourselves on the sharp bits. 

When we are young, we are inclined to try and do everything. As we get older we realise we can’t do everything. Humility involves accepting our limitations and making choices (sometimes quite difficult choices) to prioritise God’s purpose in our lives.

There are so many voices clamouring for our attention. We need to listen for and heed the still small voice of God’s Spirit. Making room in our lives to listen to God and obey him might mean changing our job. It might mean taking a pay cut.

If those with a hard heart need softening and those with shallow commitment need deepening, then those with divided attention need decluttering; they need space in which to centre their lives on Christ. How do you make room to listen to God? Do you set aside a regular, daily time for prayer and Bible study?

I know that’s easier for some than others. If you care for young children, then it can be difficult finding five spare minutes let alone 30 minutes for a quiet time with God.

Likewise, if you are a doctor or a teacher or a high flying executive, then it will be hard for you too. Having the minister, who only works one day a week, say you have to add something else (like a devotional time) to your already over full schedule probably isn’t helpful. I get that.

As important as a regular devotional time is, you need to have grace for yourself. Making Jesus the centre of your life and work does not necessarily mean quitting your job and joining a monastery.

You can make Jesus the centre by seeing your job as God’s calling on your life, one of the ways he ministers his grace through you. One of the ways you bear fruit for his glory. One of the ways his kingdom comes on earth as it is in heaven.

For example, if you are a stay at home parent, then you are not just making meals and doing the washing. You are raising your children to know God and love him. You could make space for God by doing your devotions with your kids, in a way they can relate with.               

Or if you are a health professional or a teacher working 60 plus hours a week, then you are not just making scientific diagnoses or teaching reading and maths. You are God’s hands and feet caring for your patients and students. You might make space for God by quietly praying for those in your care, seeking God in the situation while you are on the job.

Or if you are a high flying corporate type, then you aren’t just making deals for financial gain. You are thinking, how can I be generous with people and if I can’t be generous, then how can I at least be fair? Perhaps you make room for God by using your travel time to listen to sermon podcasts or reading the Bible.

Whatever we do with our time, we need to be open to conversations about our faith with those who welcome it. Humility requires us to listen more than we speak in those conversations. And faith invites us to consider, how is God already at work in that person’s life?

Conclusion:

In contrast to the hard soil, the shallow soil and the thorny soil, there are those whose lives are like good soil.

23 …the seed falling on good soil refers to someone who hears the word and understands it. This is the one who produces a crop, yielding a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown.”

This is a parable about the kingdom of God and so the crop being produced here is God’s reign on earth. The crop of God’s kingdom is obedience to God’s will. It is acts of justice and mercy. It is love, joy, peace, patience, generosity, faithfulness and self-control. It is transformation to greater Christ-likeness.

Jesus’ parables are a mirror. They show us what we are really like. What do you see when you look in the mirror of this parable? What type of soil best fits you?

Bringing this back to the core value of mutual humility, we need to cultivate a lifestyle of listening well, because it is through listening to God’s word and obeying it that God’s kingdom comes on earth as it is in heaven.

Next week’s message focuses on what it means to listen.  

Let us pray…

Father God, you are the gardener. Cultivate humility in the soil of our lives we ask. Soften our hearts to receive the seed of your word. May the roots of our commitment to Christ grow deep. Gently remove the thorns of worry and busy-ness. Help us to make room to obey your call on our lives. Through Jesus we pray. Amen. 

Questions for discussion or reflection:

What stands out for you in reading this Scripture and/or in listening to the sermon? Why do you think this stood out to you?

  • How does God’s kingdom come on earth as it is in heaven?
  • Where is God at work in your neighbourhood? How can you join God in what he is doing in your local neighbourhood? (If you are not sure, how might you find out?)
  • Jesus’ parables function as a mirror. They show us ourselves as we really are. When you look into Jesus’ parable of the sower, what do you see in the mirror? What soil type do you sense might best describe you? Why do you think this?
  • What does it mean to be hard hearted? What do the hard of heart need? How might God soften a person’s heart? What does your heart need?
  • How deep do the roots of your commitment to Jesus go? Do you have false expectations of Jesus (or erroneous beliefs about God) that need to be amended? Is there someone who can walk with you, listen to you and guide you in this process? 
  • On a scale of 1-10, what is your life schedule like? (With 1 being very quiet and 10 being super busy.) What would it look like to centre your life / work around Christ? How do you make time / room for God’s purpose?

[1] Daniel 5:20-21

Tawa Baptist

Sabbath

Scripture: Deuteronomy 5:12-15

Video Link: https://youtu.be/AwVMBilcHYA

Structure:

  • Introduction
  • The Sabbath is about stopping
  • The Sabbath is about equality
  • The Sabbath is about redemption
  • Conclusion

Introduction:

Good morning everyone.

When a couple get married they normally exchange rings as part of the ceremony. The minister might say something like…

“Wedding rings serve as a symbol of the vows you have just made. They are the outward and visible sign of an inward and invisible love which binds your lives together.”

Each partner to the marriage wears a ring both as an inward reminder to themselves of the covenant commitment they have made and as an outward sign to others that they are married.

Today we continue our series in Deuteronomy. Over the past couple of weeks, we have been looking at the ten commandments (or the ten words) of Yahweh to Israel. This week we focus on the commandment to keep the Sabbath holy.

The Sabbath is like wearing a wedding ring, it has a dual purpose. The Sabbath reminds Israel of their covenant commitment to Yahweh and shows other people they are committed to God for the long haul.  From Deuteronomy 5, verses 12-15, we read…

12 “Observe the Sabbath day by keeping it holy, as the Lord your God has commanded you. 13 Six days you shall labour and do all your work, 14 but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the Lord your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your male or female servant, nor your ox, your donkey or any of your animals, nor any foreigner residing in your towns, so that your male and female servants may rest, as you do. 15 Remember that you were slaves in Egypt and that the Lord your God brought you out of there with a mighty hand and an outstretched arm. Therefore, the Lord your God has commanded you to observe the Sabbath day.

May the Spirit of Jesus illuminate God’s word for us.

There is much we could say about the Sabbath, too much for one sermon. So our message today focuses on just three things. The Sabbath is about stopping. The Sabbath is about equality and the Sabbath is about redemption.

Stopping:

The Hebrew word ‘Sabbath’ comes from a root word which literally means to cease or to stop. The Sabbath day, therefore, is about stopping work.

A stop sign, on the road, is not like a give way sign. By law, a stop sign requires you to bring your vehicle to a complete stand still, irrespective of whether any other traffic is coming or not. They normally put stop signs in places where they want you to take extra care.

Just as a compulsory stop sign is there to prevent accidents, so too the compulsory stop of the Sabbath day is there to keep you safe.

The pace of life for many people these days is so fast. We often go from one thing to the next without a chance to catch our breath, let alone reflect. Taking one day in seven to stop, allows us the time and space we need to regather our thoughts and make better decisions; decisions which will prevent a crash.   

Most people can see the wisdom in taking a regular day off, and yet many of us find it quite hard to actually stop working completely. When we do take a day off work our hearts and minds are still on the job. It’s like we are on a treadmill.

Technology doesn’t help us to stop either. Technology exasperates the problem. We are tethered to our phones and laptops, literally the touch of a screen away from emails and work worry. So how do we stop?

Well, before we can down tools and walk off site, before we can resist the urge to check those emails one last time, we have to stop at a deeper internal level.

If we feel like the job isn’t finished, then it will be a lot harder to rest.  In my job I don’t feel like I can really knock off for the week until the sermon is preached on a Sunday and sometimes not even then.

Of course, most jobs can’t be completed in a week. If you are a builder, then it might take you months to complete the house you are working on. Or, if you are a teacher you will likely be with the same class of kids for a whole year.

You have to break the job down into smaller pieces. That way you give your mind permission to rest when you have completed the stage you had planned to accomplish that week.

The risk with this approach is that something else will come along to derail your goal for the week, so if you can’t accomplish what you had planned you feel like you have to use the weekend chasing your tail to catch up.

Going a little deeper, each of us has a drive for meaning. We want our lives to have purpose. When we retire, we want to feel like we did something worthwhile with our life.

We can find meaning in a whole variety of ways. For example: through quality long term relationships with other people; by raising children; through the nurture of a deep spiritual life; by making truckloads of money or conversely by giving away time and money in service to the community.

One of the main places people try to find meaning is in their career, their work. They may put all their eggs in one basket pursuing a career in sport or business or politics or academia or whatever and strive to become the top in their field because they believe that will fulfil their need for meaning.

There’s nothing wrong with trying to be the best you can be, but one would have to question the wisdom in sacrificing everything (your family, your health, your sanity, your very soul) for work.

Common sense says, spread the risk. Don’t put all your eggs in the same basket. Find a healthy balance. If work is the only place you find meaning in life, or even the primary place, then you will find it hard to stop and rest. You may also become starved of meaning when you cannot work any longer and all your eggs are broken.

Ultimately, our life finds its meaning and purpose in God. We live to glorify God and enjoy him. Enjoying God can happen any day of the week, but if we don’t practice Sabbath, then it probably won’t happen at all.

We are talking about the deeper things that prevent us from stopping and resting. Closely related to the search for meaning is that unconscious feeling which keeps telling us we are not enough.

It’s that voice inside which goads us and sometimes scolds us into justifying our own existence. ‘I must be productive, I must achieve this goal, I must do more in order to be enough.’

That voice is lying to you. You are enough already. You were born being enough. While you were still in your mother’s womb, before you could do anything for yourself let alone for anyone else, God looked at you with love and acceptance and said, ‘You are my child’.

Faith is believing that you are enough and you don’t need to prove anything. Christian faith is resting secure in the knowledge that you are accepted by God, through Jesus. We are accepted, not because of what we have done, but because of what Christ has done on our behalf.

When you know deep in your soul that you are justified by Christ, that Jesus has got you, then work becomes an expression of gratitude and Sabbath rest the warm embrace of your heavenly Father.     

The Sabbath is about stopping. Not just stopping our day job, but stopping at a deeper inner level. Stopping the compulsion to justify ourselves.

Equality:

Sabbath is also about equality. In verse 14 we read…

14 but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the Lord your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your male or female servant, nor your ox, your donkey or any of your animals, nor any foreigner residing in your towns, so that your male and female servants may rest, as you do.

In ancient Israel there were three tiers or strata to society. There was the natural born Israelite, with Jewish parents. Then there was the resident alien or foreigner. Immigrants basically who were not Jewish by birth but for whatever reason chose to live among the Jews. And then there were slaves, referred to in the NIV translation as male and female servants.

What we notice in verse 14 is that all three classes of people are to be treated equally on the Sabbath. Distinctions over race, gender, free and slave, rich and poor are suspended on the Sabbath. No one has to justify their existence through productivity.

Our underlying value as human beings is upheld and given a chance to breathe on the Sabbath. This egalitarian approach, where everyone gets a break from work, reminds the economically secure that the people who work for them are to be treated with dignity and respect.

Likewise, it reminds the economically vulnerable of their humanity, that they are not tools. That their lives matter and count for something more than their mere usefulness on the farm.

We also notice God’s grace in extending the Sabbath rest to animals – to the oxen and donkeys for example. This reminds us of our responsibility as stewards or caretakers of God’s creation.

The equality of the Sabbath points beyond this world to the next. The equality of the Sabbath reminds us that it is God’s plan to stop slavery, stop sexism, stop exploitation, stop racism, stop the oppression of one group by another.

In his book called, The Sabbath, Abraham Heschel recalls a rabbinic legend:

At the time when God was giving the Torah to Israel, He said to them: My Children! If you accept the Torah and observe my [commandments]. I will give you for all eternity a thing most precious that I have in my possession.

And what, asked Israel, is that precious thing…?

The world to come [God answered]

Show us in this world an example of the world to come.

The Sabbath is an example of the world to come.

You see, God intended the Sabbath as a taste of heaven on earth. The Sabbath is meant to give us a picture of what God’s kingdom is like. Sabbath equality nourishes our hope for the future.    

The world we live in badly needs to observe a regular Sabbath. Many people today are short on hope and filled with anxiety. The justice and equality of the Sabbath interrupts our anxious thoughts and fosters hope of a better world to come.

Redemption:

For equality to be possible there must first be redemption. Redemption has to do with being saved from something bad; being delivered, set free or rescued. In Christian thought, redemption is closely related to atonement.  

In 1999, a 23 year old man, Cornelius Anderson (nicknamed Mike), robbed a Burger King at gunpoint, stealing $2,000. He was arrested and sentenced to 13 years in prison. They released him on bail and told him to await orders on when to show for his prison sentence.

Due to an admin error the orders did not come, so Anderson did not go to prison. At this point, Mike Anderson had a choice: either continue down the path of crime or choose an honest life.

Mike decided to make good and choose an honest life. He used his freedom to become a master carpenter and start his own construction business. He became a football coach, volunteered at his local church, got married, had three children and became a well-liked member of his community.

Thirteen years later the state discovered their error. They thought Mike was already in prison and only noticed their mistake when Mike was due to be released. The authorities then acted to have him incarcerated.

Mike wasn’t in prison long though. 35,000 people signed a petition for his release and after less than a year the judge let Mike go, saying he was a changed man. Anderson walked out of the courthouse thanking God.

That is a true story of redemption. Mike Anderson used the gift of freedom to turn his life around.

Some people might complain that justice was not served, that Mike got away with it, but I don’t see it that way. Redemption is not in conflict with justice. Redemption is a higher form of justice. Redemption is a God given opportunity to start again and make things right.

To force Mike Anderson to serve 13 years in jail after he had made good, would be to treat God’s grace with contempt.

In verse 15 of Deuteronomy 5, we read of another true story of redemption, Israel’s redemption…

15 Remember that you were slaves in Egypt and that the Lord your God brought you out of there with a mighty hand and an outstretched arm. Therefore, the Lord your God has commanded you to observe the Sabbath day.

This verse points quite clearly to the purpose of the Sabbath, which is to remember and celebrate God’s redemption.

During the exile, when the Israelites were living in Babylon, the Sabbath became a symbol of solidarity and an exercise in hope.  God had led their ancestors out of Egypt with a mighty hand. This inspired the exiles to hope that he would lead them out of Babylon too, back to their homeland.

Over the centuries quite a few man made rules developed around the Sabbath commandment, detailing what people could and could not do on the Lord’s day. Sadly, the purpose or the spirit of the law got buried (or lost) along the way. 

Jesus challenged these man made rules on a number of occasions by healing people on the Sabbath day. In doing this he was reminding us the Sabbath is about redemption.

In Mark 2, Jesus famously said: “The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath. 28 So the Son of Man is Lord even of the Sabbath.”

When Jesus says, ‘the Sabbath was made for man’, he means it was made for humankind.

Conclusion:

I don’t want to tell you what you can and can’t do on your day off. But I do want to encourage to take one day off in seven. It tends to work better if you take the same day off as other people, whenever possible.

For the Jews the Sabbath is a Saturday, the last day of the week. For most Christians the Sabbath is traditionally a Sunday, the first day of the week. A Sunday Sabbath makes sense if you are a Christian because Jesus rose from the dead on a Sunday and Jesus’ resurrection is the basis for our hope of redemption.

In keeping with Jesus’ teaching, that the Sabbath was made for man, we do well to ask ourselves: What is it that my soul needs?

Perhaps you have had a particularly difficult week and you need to think about something other than the problem you have been trying to solve. Focusing on God in adoration and worship could help with that.

Perhaps you sit at a desk in front of a computer most of the week. What is something you enjoy doing that is completely different from that? Maybe gardening or fishing or mountain biking or walking on the beach is what your soul needs.

Perhaps your work involves staying home and looking after children most of the time. Maybe some adult conversation is what you need?

Perhaps your job is highly pressured with back to back meetings and long hours. Maybe just sitting still in a quiet room with a good book will refill your tank.

Or perhaps you live alone, filling the hours as best you can. Maybe coming to church to be with others or going out to lunch to chat with friends is the Sabbath for you. 

Alongside this question, ‘what is it my soul needs?’, we also need to ask, what is it the people around me need? Because the Sabbath is for everyone.

If you are an extravert and you are married to an introvert, then what your partner needs on their day off is probably going to be different from what you need. How can you both get what you need? 

The Sabbath is about stopping and resting, on the inside and the out.

The Sabbath is about equality, being fair to yourself and those around you.

And the Sabbath is about redemption, using your freedom to put things right.

Let us pray…

Father God, we thank you for the gift of Sabbath. Give us the grace we need to stop worrying, to stop striving and to stop trying to justify ourselves. Help us to see your redemption, both for ourselves and for others, and to walk in it. Through Jesus we pray. Amen. 

Questions for discussion or reflection:

What stands out for you in reading this Scripture and/or in listening to the sermon? Why do you think this stood out to you?

  • Why do we need to stop working on the Sabbath?
  • How do we stop working, on the inside and the out?
  • Where do you find meaning for your life? Are all your (meaning) eggs in the same basket? How might you diversify your meaning making?
  • What does verse 14 of Deuteronomy 5 tell us about the Sabbath? What does the Sabbath show us about God’s kingdom? How does Sabbath equality foster hope?
  • What is redemption? Can you think of an example of redemption from your own life (or from the Scriptures)?
  • What is it your soul needs? What is it those around you need?