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Character

Scripture: Genesis 49:1-12

Video Link: https://youtu.be/qYC-7kvaLCY

Structure:

  • Introduction
  • Jacob’s character
  • Reuben, Simeon & Levi’s character
  • Judah’s character
  • Conclusion

Introduction:

Good morning everyone.

The philosopher and poet, James Allen once wrote…

“The law of harvest is to reap more than you sow. Sow an act, and you reap a habit. Sow a habit and you reap a character. Sow a character and you reap a destiny.”  

When we talk about character, we mean the mental and moral qualities distinctive to a person. Character can be life giving and good or not.

As a general principle, if you are in the habit of being honest and kind, then you will develop an honest and kind character. And if you have an honest and kind character people will trust you and you will find yourself on the path to friendship and respect. Generally speaking, you will reap what you sow.   

Today we continue our series in the life of Joseph. We have come to that part in the story where Joseph’s father, Jacob, is on his death bed. Jacob knows he doesn’t have long and so he calls his sons together to speak with them.

Jacob gives each son an insight into their character and the destiny of their descendants. This is the future Jacob sees for each of the tribes of Israel. From Genesis 49, verses 1-12, we read…

Then Jacob called for his sons and said: “Gather around so I can tell you what will happen to you in days to come. 2 “Assemble and listen, sons of Jacob; listen to your father Israel. 3 “Reuben, you are my firstborn, my might, the first sign of my strength, excelling in honour, excelling in power. 4 Turbulent as the waters, you will no longer excel, for you went up onto your father’s bed, onto my couch and defiled it. 5 “Simeon and Levi are brothers—their swordsare weapons of violence. 6 Let me not enter their council, let me not join their assembly, for they have killed men in their anger and hamstrung oxen as they pleased. 7 Cursed be their anger, so fierce, and their fury, so cruel! I will scatter them in Jacob and disperse them in Israel. 8 “Judah, your brothers will praise you; your hand will be on the neck of your enemies; your father’s sons will bow down to you. 9 You are a lion’s cub, Judah; you return from the prey, my son. Like a lion he crouches and lies down, like a lioness—who dares to rouse him? 10 The sceptre will not depart from Judah, nor the ruler’s staff from between his feet, until he to whom it belongsshall come and the obedience of the nations shall be his. 11 He will tether his donkey to a vine, his colt to the choicest branch; he will wash his garments in wine, his robes in the blood of grapes. 12 His eyes will be darker than wine, his teeth whiter than milk.

May the Spirit of Jesus illuminate God’s word for us.

Jacob had twelve sons originally, before he adopted Joseph’s sons, Ephraim and Manasseh. We are not going to cover Jacob’s words for all twelve sons this morning. Just the first four, who were born to Jacob by his wife Leah.

Before we look more closely at what Jacob had to say about the character and destiny of Reuben, Simeon, Levi and Judah, first let’s consider Jacob’s character.

Jacob’s character:

The American author, H. Jackson Brown, is quoted as saying…

“Our character is what we do when we think no one is looking.”

Are you the same at church as you are at work or at home? Would you be okay with someone checking the search history on your computer? Have you ever walked out of a restaurant without paying? Or made a mess and left someone else to clean it up?

Our character is what we do when we think no one is looking.

As a young man, Jacob was inclined to deceit. He tricked his older brother Esau out of the birth-right and he lied to his father Isaac to secure a blessing. Jacob did not always demonstrate good moral character.    

Sow a character and you reap a destiny. Jacob’s deceit resulted in him having to run away from home to his uncle Laban. And Laban tricked Jacob out of seven years free labour. Jacob got a taste of his own character and he didn’t like it.  

Fast forward a few years and Jacob’s sons get rid of Joseph, then lie to Jacob to cover their tracks. Eventually the truth came out though. It always does.  

Jacob learned the hard way to be honest. Now, at the end of his life, Jacob does everything out in the open, for all to see and hear. Jacob calls his sons together. His words to them are not spoken in secret. Jacob does not fudge the truth. He speaks with absolute candor.

And as we have heard, some of what Jacob has to say about his sons’ character and destiny is not easy or pleasant.

The point here is that God transformed Jacob’s character. God changed Jacob from being a fraudster and a liar to being a prophet and a truth speaker. God wisely and patiently used the crucible of consequence to teach Jacob and refine his character.

God is able to do the same with us. God gives us the Spirit of Jesus, a Spirit of grace and truth, to help us in our character formation. Jesus’ Spirit gives us insight into the truth about ourselves and strength to form new habits that reform our character and put us on a path to a better destiny.

Okay, so that’s Jacob’s character. Let’s take a closer look now at Jacob’s three eldest sons, Reuben, Simeon and Levi. What did Jacob see in their character and destiny?

Reuben, Simeon and Levi’s character:         

John Locke, the 17th Century physician and philosopher, had this to say about character, “The discipline of desire is the background of character.”

John Locke is talking about self-control here. The ability to exercise restraint is essential to developing good character. Without self-control we can’t sow healthy habits that lead to good character.  

Let me tell you a tale from the Jungle Doctor stories. A small monkey called Tichi was fascinated by the curved beaks of vultures. One day, a vulture landed near Tichi in the family tree. Tichi stared at the bird and, when no one was looking, he threw it some food. Then he clapped and shouted, ‘be gone’.

The vulture flew off but the next day it returned with another vulture.

Again, Tichi threw the birds some food before clapping and shouting, ‘be gone’. This continued for a few days until there were so many vultures, Tichi was scared and started throwing stones at the birds.

The vultures grew bolder and bolder until, eventually, they closed in on Tichi who clapped and screamed in vain. In minutes the vultures had devoured the small monkey. Sadly, Tichi was not able to discipline his desire.

In verses 3 and 4, Jacob addresses Reuben, his eldest son. Reuben showed promise at first, excelling in strength and honour. Jacob had high hopes for Reuben. But those hopes were not realised. Reuben did not discipline his desire. Consequently, his character proved to be turbulent.      

The Hebrew root word, translated as turbulent, means to be insolent, proud, undisciplined, reckless, uncontrollable or unstable.

Reuben forfeited his rights as first-born son because he slept with one of his father’s concubines, Bilhah, the maid servant of his stepmother Rachel.

In other words, Reuben committed adultery with one of his father’s wives.

Reuben’s act of adultery didn’t happen by accident. Adultery doesn’t work like that. Reuben kept feeding the vultures of desire until one day he was overcome.

Reuben’s turbulent undisciplined unstable character resulted in him losing the privilege and responsibility of leading the family. From the perspective of Jacob’s other sons, this was a blessing. You don’t want people with a turbulent character in charge.

What about Simeon and Levi, Jacob’s second and third sons? Well, they didn’t fare much better. Verses 5-7 tell us Simeon and Levi shared a similar character, one shaped by violence and cruelty. Fair warning, what I’m about to say is not easy to hear. 

Simeon and Levi had a sister called Dinah. Back in the land of Canaan, Dinah made friends with some of the local girls. A young man by the name of Shechem took a fancy to Dinah and forced himself on her. Afterwards, he approached Jacob asking if he could marry Dinah.

Dinah’s brothers acted deceitfully. They insisted that Shechem and all the males in his family be circumcised first, before Shechem married Dinah. So, the men of Shechem were circumcised and, while they were still in pain, Simeon and Levi took their swords and killed every male in the town.

Then they carried off all their wealth and their women and children. This was an evil thing to do. Simeon and Levi did not discipline their desire for revenge and so they too forfeited the privilege and responsibility of leadership.

Now at the end of his life, Jacob says of Simeon and Levi, ‘Let me not enter their council, let me not join their assembly…’ Jacob wants nothing to do with that kind of behaviour.

Jacob was so disgusted with his sons that he cursed their anger. Notice though that Jacob does not curse his sons. He curses their anger and cruelty. Jacob is sending a clear message of what is acceptable for the people of God and what is not.   

Simeon and Levi had ended Shechem’s family line and so their own descendants would be scattered. This in fact happened. Centuries later, the Simeonites ended up living in various places throughout Canaan, while the Levites were dispersed throughout the land, serving as priests.

Two things we note with Jacob’s words to Reuben, Simeon and Levi. Firstly, Jacob does not cover up his sons’ crimes. Jacob does not sweep their evil deeds under the carpet. Nor does he excuse them.

Jacob brings what they did out into the open. As painful as this must have been it was necessary, like draining an abscess to prevent the infection from spreading.

We are reminded of the Royal Commission of Inquiry who, this past week, delivered its final report into abuse in care. This report is about bringing the truth into the open. Through pain and trauma. From darkness to light.

The second thing we note, is that despite Reuben, Simeon and Levi’s poor choices, Jacob did not exclude them or their descendants from the family or the nation of Israel. They still belonged to the people of God. This is grace. Truth with grace.

Judah’s character:

When Jacob comes to his fourth son, Judah, we note a positive change. Reuben, Simeon and Levi get five verses between them. Judah gets five verses all to himself. And it is good stuff too. Top shelf. No reprimand.

Kahlil Gibran once wrote, ‘Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars’. Is Kahlil Gibran saying that suffering develops character? Or is he saying that suffering reveals character?

Hmm? I’m not sure we can make a formula out of it. Too much suffering, at the wrong time, risks destroying good character, rather than building it. That said, God is able to use suffering to shape a person to serve his purpose.

Judah was a massive character, seared with scars. Some of those scars were his own doing, like when he sold Joseph into slavery and had to live with the guilt of causing his father Jacob untold grief.

Or the time he slept with his daughter-in-law (Tamar) thinking she was a prostitute. Judah tried to cover it up, but the truth came out and he was humiliated.

Other scars were not his doing though. Judah’s wife died before her time and then he lost two of his sons in short succession. Not his fault. But instructive all the same. Now he knew how his father felt losing Rachel, then Joseph.

Perhaps this was why Judah offered himself as a slave in Benjamin’s place, to save his father (Jacob) from further suffering. Would Judah have done this if he hadn’t suffered personal loss and humiliation? It is beyond our knowing.

What we do know is the future looked bright for Judah and his descendants.

Jacob’s words, in verses 8-10, make it clear that the tribe of Judah will lead the nation of Israel. In verse 8, Jacob says Judah’s brothers will praise him and bow down before him.

Also, that Judah’s hand will be on the neck of his enemies. This literally happened with king David, one of Judah’s descendants. David killed the Philistine, Goliath, cut his head off and lifted the giant’s head in victory.

The leadership imagery continues in verse 9 where Jacob refers to Judah as a lion. A lion is the king of the jungle, symbolic of sovereignty, strength and courage. Judah’s descendants (through the line of David) would become the ruling tribe among the southern tribes of Israel.

Jesus is the greater descendant of Judah though, for Jesus is the King of kings. In the book Revelation (at the end of the Bible) the apostle John has a vision in which one of the elders says to him, ‘Do not weep! See the Lion of the tribe of Judah, the Root of David, has triumphed…’  The Lion of the tribe of Judah refers to Jesus who has triumphed over sin and death.

Returning to Genesis 49, we find more leadership metaphors in verse 10 where Jacob says, ‘The sceptre will not depart from Judah, nor the ruler’s staff from between his feet, until he to whom it belongsshall come and the obedience of the nations shall be his’.

Many commentators believe this verse refers to Jesus, the Messiah, who will reign over all the nations of the earth. These words are pregnant with hope. Jacob foresees a time when people everywhere will obey God. This will be heaven on earth.     

The donkey in verse 11 is an image of peace. To ride a donkey (as opposed to a war horse) was a sign that the king comes in peace. David rode into Jerusalem on a donkey as did Jesus many centuries after him.

Tethering the donkey to a vine speaks of a settled life. The vine is often used as a metaphor for Israel. So, the idea here is that the people of God will one day enjoy stable peaceful government through the Messiah.

The picture of washing his garments in wine indicates abundance, like bathing in milk or feeding eye fillet steak to your dog. Excess wine also points to a time of great joy and celebration. 

We are reminded of Jesus’ first miracle at the wedding in Cana, where the Lord transformed over five hundred litres of water into fine wine. Jesus’ coming heralded abundance and joy.

In verse 12 Jacob says, ‘His eyes will be darker than wine, his teeth whiter than milk’. This is poetry. If your eyes and teeth are healthy then you are in good shape inside and out. Jacob is painting a picture of good health and vitality.

Not just good physical health but spiritual vitality as well.

Conclusion:

When we consider the character of Jacob and his sons we notice two things.

Firstly, character is not one dimensional. Human character has layers. We are a mixture.

When we are young, we don’t always know our own character very well.

We may think we are decent enough human beings until circumstance throws us a curve ball and we respond in a way that proves we are not as good as we thought we were. Most people as they get older have fewer illusions about their character. We call this process, ‘growth in self-awareness’.

In those moments, when you realise some flaw in your character, try to be kind to yourself. Know that God’s grace is sufficient for you. Yes, we each have shortcomings and gaps in our character. But we also have a basic God given goodness, for we are made in the image of God.

The second thing we learn from Jacob’s insights, in Genesis 49, is that character is not fixed. Human character is malleable, it can change, like clay in the potter’s hand. God in his wisdom is able to reform and refine our character. But it will probably hurt.

To be a Christian is to be on a journey with Jesus. This journey will inevitably change us if we stick with it. Our destiny is to become more Christ-like in our habits and character. To be transformed into his likeness, without losing our uniqueness.  

While some effort is required of us, I don’t believe we can achieve Christ-like character in our own strength. We need the help of God’s Spirit and God’s people. More than that, we need to rely on the goodness of Jesus’ character.

Let us pray…

Gracious God, grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can and the wisdom to know the difference. Through Jesus we pray. Amen.

Questions for discussion or reflection:

  1. What stands out for you in reading this Scripture and/or in listening to the sermon? Why do you think this stood out to you?
  2. What is character? How is character formed?
  3. How did Jacob’s character change over time? Why did Jacob speak his deathbed words to his sons in the open for all to hear?
  4. What role has suffering played (if any) in the (re)formation and refinement of your character? Can you think of a specific example?
  5. Discuss / reflect on the imagery of Jacob’s words to Judah, in verses 8-12.  In what ways do Jacob’s words here point to Jesus?
  6. What layers are you aware of in your character? Can you think of a time when you became aware of a character flaw? What happened? How did you deal with it? Would you handle things differently in future?
  7. If there was one thing about your character you would like to be different, what would it be? Is this something to change or something to accept? Give this to God in prayer.
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Attachment

Scripture: Genesis 42:25-43:14

Video Link: https://youtu.be/qdL_nTpVw54

Structure:

  • Introduction
  • Fear and attachment
  • Faith and attachment
  • Conclusion

Introduction:

Good morning everyone.

When children are young, they often form an attachment to a soft toy, a teddy, a blanket or something else they cannot part with. The attachment gives the child a feeling of security.

Eventually though, the child forms other attachments. They make friends or get a pet and the toy or the teddy is put away. Although the kinds of attachments we make change through the various stages of our life, the basic reason for forming attachments remains the same, security. 

Attachments are important. We need healthy attachments to survive and thrive, much like a plant needs an attachment to good soil. Sometimes though we become overly attached to the wrong things. Things which might make us feel good in the moment but provide no real or lasting security and are actually harmful to our wellbeing, causing us to wither and die.

This morning we continue our sermon series in the life of Joseph. Previously, Joseph’s brothers had travelled to Egypt to buy grain. They did not recognize Joseph but Joseph recognized them and decided to test them to see if they had changed for the better. 

Joseph needed to know the quality of their attachments. Were they still attached to the wrong things? Or had they formed more healthy, life-giving attachments? We pick up the story from Genesis 42, verse 25…

25 Joseph gave orders to fill their bags with grain, to put each man’s silver back in his sack, and to give them provisions for their journey. After this was done for them, 26 they loaded their grain on their donkeys and left. 27 At the place where they stopped for the night one of them opened his sack to get feed for his donkey, and he saw his silver in the mouth of his sack. 28 “My silver has been returned,” he said to his brothers. “Here it is in my sack.” Their hearts sank and they turned to each other trembling and said, “What is this that God has done to us?” 29 When they came to their father Jacob in the land of Canaan, they told him all that had happened to them. They said, 30 “The man who is lord over the land spoke harshly to us and treated us as though we were spying on the land. 31 But we said to him, ‘We are honest men; we are not spies. 32 We were twelve brothers, sons of one father. One is no more, and the youngest is now with our father in Canaan.’ 33 “Then the man who is lord over the land said to us, ‘This is how I will know whether you are honest men: Leave one of your brothers here with me, and take food for your starving households and go. 34 But bring your youngest brother to me so I will know that you are not spies but honest men. Then I will give your brother back to you, and you can trade in the land.’ ” 35 As they were emptying their sacks, there in each man’s sack was his pouch of silver! When they and their father saw the money pouches, they were frightened. 36 Their father Jacob said to them, “You have deprived me of my children. Joseph is no more and Simeon is no more, and now you want to take Benjamin. Everything is against me!” 37 Then Reuben said to his father, “You may put both of my sons to death if I do not bring him back to you. Entrust him to my care, and I will bring him back.” 38 But Jacob said, “My son will not go down there with you; his brother is dead and he is the only one left. If harm comes to him on the journey you are taking, you will bring my gray head down to the grave in sorrow.”

May the Spirit of Jesus illuminate God’s word for us.

In these verses we see how fear affects attachment.

Fear and attachment:

Imagine yourself in a room full of gold. The gold is yours to keep if you want it. And you do want it. You’ve got bills to pay and having some money tucked away would give you peace of mind, or so you think.

The problem is this room you are sitting in with the gold is on a ship far out at sea.  And the ship is sinking fast. If you stay with the gold, you will go down with the ship and if you try to take some of the gold with you, in your pockets, the weight will drag you under the waves.

The choice is clear. If you want to live, you must abandon your attachment to the gold.    

Many of us have an attachment to money, although we may not like to admit it. We like having money because wealth gives us a feeling of security. It puts some of our fears to bed and makes us feel safe.

The problem is, having money also awakens other fears. Specifically, the fear of losing our money. Too much wealth can be as bad as too little. Riches, like poverty, tend to isolate us.

But when faced with a crisis, a choice between life and death, most of us would sacrifice the money to save ourselves. The fear of death is usually greater than the fear of poverty. You can always make more money, but you can’t make more time.

Joseph had suffered much at the hands of his brothers. They had sold him into slavery for 20 shekels of silver. By doing this the brothers had demonstrated a greater attachment to money than to Joseph.

When Joseph’s brothers leave Egypt to return to Canaan, Joseph orders his servant to put the silver they had paid back in their sacks. Why does Joseph do this? Is the silver a subtle reminder of his brothers’ crime? Or is Joseph being generous and repaying their wrongdoing with good?

Whatever Joseph’s motivation, when the brothers later discover the silver has been returned, their hearts sink and they feel terribly afraid.

They know this is not a good look. It makes them appear dishonest and gives the lord of the land more reason to distrust them.

In fear the brothers say to one another, “What is this that God has done to us?” Their guilty consciences see the returned silver as a punishment from God.

Although guilt doesn’t feel good, it is not always a bad thing. Guilt acts like bolt cutters for an unhealthy attachment. When we are attached to something that is harmful, like drinking too much for example, then (if our conscience is functioning properly) we will feel guilty about it and the guilt will motivate us to break our harmful attachment to alcohol.   

The brothers’ fear and guilt is a necessary step in the process of their redemption.

When the brothers get home to Canaan and explain to their father Jacob what happened, how the lord of the land wants them to return with Benjamin, Jacob is fearful also. He won’t have a bar of it saying…

38 “My son will not go down there with you; his brother is dead and he is the only one left. If harm comes to him on the journey you are taking, you will bring my gray head down to the grave in sorrow.”

Clearly, Jacob’s attachment to Benjamin and to his own grief is greater than anything he feels for the rest of his family.

Benjamin is no longer a child. He is a young man in his 20’s. Jacob’s attachment to Benjamin is not healthy. It keeps Jacob in a prison of fear and threatens the survival of the whole family.

While it is natural for parents to feel a strong attachment to their children, there comes a point when we need to trust God and let our children go. Not all at once, but gradually and with the support they need. Our attachment to our kids needs to flex and adapt as they grow.

It is difficult for Jacob to do this though because he has lost his favourite son, Joseph, and he is still living with the pain of that loss.

In his book, God of Surprises, Gerard Hughes (a Catholic priest and spiritual director) says this; “The answer is in the pain. We fear whatever causes us pain and try to escape, but in escaping we are running away from the answer… Face the fears that haunt you.” (page 101)

Jacob needs to face his fear of losing Benjamin. But will he find the faith he needs to do this?

Faith and attachment:

We continue the story from verse 1 of Genesis 43…

1 Now the famine was still severe in the land. 2 So when they had eaten all the grain they had brought from Egypt, their father said to them, “Go back and buy us a little more food.” 3 But Judah said to him, “The man warned us solemnly, ‘You will not see my face again unless your brother is with you.’ 4 If you will send our brother along with us, we will go down and buy food for you. 5 But if you will not send him, we will not go down, because the man said to us, ‘You will not see my face again unless your brother is with you.’  6 “Israel asked, “Why did you bring this trouble on me by telling the man you had another brother?” 7 They replied, “The man questioned us closely about ourselves and our family. ‘Is your father still living?’ he asked us. ‘Do you have another brother?’ We simply answered his questions. How were we to know he would say, ‘Bring your brother down here’?” 8 Then Judah said to Israel his father, “Send the boy along with me and we will go at once, so that we and you and our children may live and not die. 9 I myself will guarantee his safety; you can hold me personally responsible for him. If I do not bring him back to you and set him here before you, I will bear the blame before you all my life. 10 As it is, if we had not delayed, we could have gone and returned twice.” 11 Then their father Israel said to them, “If it must be, then do this: Put some of the best products of the land in your bags and take them down to the man as a gift—a little balm and a little honey, some spices and myrrh, some pistachio nuts and almonds. 12 Take double the amount of silver with you, for you must return the silver that was put back into the mouths of your sacks. Perhaps it was a mistake. 13 Take your brother also and go back to the man at once. 14 And may God Almighty grant you mercy before the man so that he will let your other brother and Benjamin come back with you. As for me, if I am bereaved, I am bereaved.”

In these verses Jacob finds the faith to face his fears. Faith plays an important part in the formation of healthy attachments. 

In the movie, The Sound of Music, Captain von Trapp does not enjoy a close or warm attachment to his children. Then along comes Maria who, through love and music, restores the father to his family.

In the middle of the film, the Captain and Maria start to form a romantic attachment. And, as is often the case with romantic attachments, neither of them is really that aware of their feelings at first.

Maria is confused and, after a quiet word from Baroness Schraeder, decides to return to the convent where she stays in seclusion and prepares to take vows to become a nun.

When the mother superior learns that Maria is actually afraid and hiding in the convent, to avoid her feelings for the Captain, she wisely encourages Maria to return to the von Trapp villa to face her fear and look for her purpose in life.

As it turns out, the Captain’s feelings of love for Maria have not changed, except now he has found the courage to admit his feelings to himself and to Maria. Baroness Schraeder sees the reality of the situation and gracefully leaves. Maria and the Captain are then married.

Faith plays an important part in forming healthy attachments. Faith helps us to face our fears and our pain. At the same time, faith enables us to hold things loosely, so we can let go in trust.

By faith Maria was able to put her romantic attachment to Captain von Trapp in God’s hands. She was willing to let God be God.

In Genesis 43, Jacob finds that he must face his fears and let go in faith, or else lose everything. The famine is so severe that the brothers must return to Egypt to buy more grain, or else they will starve. But they can’t return without taking Benjamin with them.

Reuben, the eldest brother, had tried persuading his father by saying that Jacob could put both of his sons to death if he doesn’t bring Benjamin back with him. But Jacob refuses.

If Reuben is that careless with his own sons, why would Jacob trust him with Benjamin. What good would it do to destroy more innocent lives? Reuben’s proposal is not the letting go of faith. It is the reckless letting go of desperation. It shows that Reuben’s attachments are not healthy.

Later Judah tries persuading Jacob by offering himself as guarantor for Benjamin saying, “I myself will guarantee his safety; you can hold me personally responsible for him…”

You may remember from Genesis 38 that two of Judah’s sons had died. Judah understands his father’s pain all too well.

Unlike Reuben, who was risking his sons’ lives, Judah is taking the risk on himself. Judah is saying that he will take the blame if he fails to bring Benjamin back safely. Judah’s proposal is more like the letting go of faith.

This reveals a real transformation in Judah’s character. Earlier, in Genesis 37, it was Judah who had led the others in selling Joseph into slavery. Now Judah takes the role of leader again, only this time he is not serving his own interests. This time Judah makes himself vulnerable and let’s go of his power in order to help others.   

We see a change in the other brothers too. Twenty years earlier they might have ignored Jacob’s wishes and kidnapped Benjamin in order to get him to Egypt to buy grain.

But now, having witnessed the suffering of their father, the brothers let go of their attachment to violence and power in order to honour their father and allow him to decide.

In the end Jacob realises his options are limited. If he does not let Benjamin go, they will all die. So, Jacob finally allows Benjamin to travel with his brothers to Egypt.

But notice Jacob’s advice to his sons. “Take the best products of the land as a gift… Take double the amount of silver with you… And may God Almighty grant you mercy… As for me, if I am bereaved, I am bereaved.”

In faith, Jacob faces his fear of being bereaved. He does what he can to prepare his sons (sending them off with gifts for the man) and then trusts his sons and the success of their mission to God’s mercy. This is the letting go of faith. Jacob is learning to let God be God.

Letting go in faith requires thoughtfulness and courage. We do what is in our power to do and we trust God with the rest.

Conclusion:

Unhealthy attachments can reveal themselves in many ways. The accumulation of wealth, the compulsion to try and control everything, an obsession with what others think, an affair of the heart, overworking, a destructive habit, self-righteousness, becoming too dependent on one person for our security, and so on. These are all signs of an unhealthy attachment to something.   

If we find ourselves holding onto something so tightly that we cannot let go and leave it in God’s hands, then it has probably become an unhealthy attachment. A millstone around our neck. Something that weighs our soul down and will eventually kill us.

What fears do you need to face?

What attachments do you need to hold more loosely?

Or perhaps let go of altogether?

Jesus understood our need for attachment. He also knew the human tendency to form attachments to the wrong things. The Lord says…

‘For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will find it. What good will it be for a man if he gains the whole world, yet forfeits his soul?’  

In the end, the only thing that really matters is the quality of our attachment to Jesus.

Questions for discussion or reflection:

What stands out for you in reading this Scripture and/or in listening to the sermon? Why do you think this stood out to you?

  • Why do people form attachments?
  • How does fear affect our attachments? Why do we need to face our fears? What fears do you need to face?
  • What role does guilt play in breaking unhealthy attachments?
  • What role does faith play in the formation of healthy attachments? Can you think of ways that faith has helped you in forming attachments?
  • How might we know when an attachment has become unhealthy? What unhealthy attachments do you need to let go of? Ask God for his grace in doing this.
  • What can you do to strengthen your attachment to Christ?